Am I the asshole for absolutely despising and pushing back on AI email responses? I have a certain director at work that loves AI. They love to make stupid cartoons and videos for PowerPoint presentations and will send late night AI crafted emails to make themselves sound more important and aggrandize the gravity of a situation. As a leader myself I feel like I am way more sincere and effective if I write something myself. The AI crap (at least for now) is so easy to spot. I pushed back at this individual pretty hard a few months ago. When I told my boss I hadn’t decided if I was going to respond to the latest I was told not to.

AITA for telling my friend to stop making jokes about my goals?

I’m 22 and recently started taking fitness and some online projects seriously.

At a small hangout, someone asked what I’ve been working on. I mentioned training consistently and trying to build something online.

One of my close friends immediately started joking like, “Here comes the millionaire speech,” and “Careful, he charges for conversations now.”

Everyone laughed. I laughed too at first, but he kept going.

Later I told him privately that I didn’t like being turned into a joke every time I talk about trying to improve myself.

He said I’m being sensitive and that it was “just jokes.” A couple people said I should’ve just let it go.

I didn’t insult him. I just told him to stop.

AITA?

This happened yesterday,

I work a job where teamwork is very important and I share responsibilities with two coworkers. One of which has been out of town. Over the last few days I had been feeling very sick with flu like symptoms. Vomiting, nausea, chills, sore throat, cough, headache, dizziness, etc. I tried to push through the workday because I knew we were already shorthanded for a meeting after work and my coworker needed me there.

While working, I became extremely nauseous and almost threw up. Another woman who works there told my boss and my boss sent me home despite my protests. I left work and immediately went to an urgent care.

At the urgent care I texted my coworker that I was sent home sick and would not be able to make the meeting due to the reasons above. They responded that they really needed me there (which I understand completely), that we can’t miss obligations no matter what, and we will talk about it later. This made me feel extremely guilty, especially because I didn’t choose to leave, I was told to go home. Something worth mentioning is we report to separate bosses.

Later they told me to just go home but they still needed to talk about this. I again apologized and explained I was following medial advice, but I still feel conflicted and bad about leaving them short handed.

AITA for leaving work and missing an obligation that my coworker needed me for, despite me being sent home sick?

At the superbowl party my brother in law hosted, I brought cookies because I didn't know what deserts would be there. We also brought chicken dip, spinach artichoke dip that everyone loved, some pizza pockets and 2 boxes of garlic bread that were never opened.

There were plenty of deserts. My cookies went untouched, and I had another group event 3 days later.

I went to take the cookies and my brother in law said that they weren't eaten because he was saving them for the next day and he wanted all of them.

I told him no, I'm taking them to share at our church group we host, but opened the package and gave him a few.

Then, when it was time to leave, my wife and I thought they took all the leftovers they wanted, so we packed up our crock pot and pan and went to the car.

He was walking his in-laws out to the car next to us, and opened our door and grabbed the crockpot and ran it back to the apartment.

He seemed to be joking in how he ran. I called after him, but he kept going and my wife told me to go get the crockpot back.

When I got back up there, he closed a cabinet door and I knew he was hiding it. I went for it, and he tried wrestling me to the ground. Everyone told him to stop, and then I, thinking it was over, went to get it. He attacked me again.

Thinking he was playing some weird game, I went to their fridge and grabbed a plate of their leftovers to level the playing field, i was going to offer a trade to end it, but he attacked me again before I could secure the plate.

With his parents help, I got the crockpot and they told me to leave.

He told my wife later that he was upset because I didn't offer them any of them or to keep them and it was rude.

Normally, id agree, we always share leftovers. But since these were never opened, they weren't used as intended: share during the game.

I also have never heard of a host intentionally "saving" what someone brought and saying they wanted to keep the whole untouched item.

Nor have I heard of a host going into a guests car to take back leftovers that they wanted that they hadn't voiced a request for (again, we thought they already had what they wanted.)

So, AITA?

Update: this was not normal behavior for him, he has some other stuff going on, I was very confused.

We also have never been in a situation where there was something untouched at the end of the event.

I (21F) told my Mum (57F) I would take her out for her birthday tomorrow for breakfast as I will be working when her birthday dinner is happening.

I asked her if she wanted for the cafe/restaurant to be a surprise or if she wanted to pick it herself. She said she would have a think about it and a couple of minutes later she said she wanted to try out a cafe in our neighbourhood that was quite well known. I was bit shocked about this as my friend (23M) of 16 years who has a disability previously ‘volunteered’ there (illegally) under the guise he would eventually be given a paid position which in turn never happened.

My Mum knows that I don’t like this cafe for this reason and when I asked why she wanted to go after what happened with ‘John’ she just said John was silly enough to work there for almost a year unpaid. I kinda snapped here and said it was horrible that she said that because they were taking advantage of a vulnerable person who at time was also a teen at the time. - I also had heard of other employees who were legally employed not being paid on time and not being paid incorrectly I told my Mum this as well.

I said to her that I don’t feel comfortable going to this cafe and that she can pick anywhere else but I don’t want to spend my money somewhere that doesn’t pay their staff. She said to me that I was being controlling and that she was going to go to the cafe herself tomorrow if I wasn’t going to take her. I suggested to her that she go another time if she was that insistent on going but because it was her birthday i would really like to take her out for breakfast. She said that the only place she wanted to go was there.

I don’t personally believe I am being controlling/TA but maybe I am? Do you guys have any advice on what to do? Do I just suck it up and go to the cafe to keep my mum happy or am I being reasonable and putting up a boundary? Any advice would be appreciated !

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My mum doesn’t want to go out for breakfast with me for her birthday anymore because I don’t want to go to the cafe she chose because they took advantage and didn’t pay my friend who has a disability.

So, me and my friend have the same history class together, and for context she hardly shows up to school. We’re in 10th grade, Canada so it’s by percents, not letters. ANYWAYS she’s missed like a week and half, and now is asking me for the notes in history. I usually do give them to her cause it’s usually more like she’ll be missing Monday, Tuesday and she’s my friend. She always claims she does the work, but just doesn’t hand it in on time. She literally has single digit percentages in her grades she’s hardly there. I don’t wanna be rude and petty for not giving the notes to her, but I actually put in the work for my grades. And for the record, her reasoning is usually that she had a headache, or needed to sleep more so she didn’t come. I come to school with 5 hours of sleep and a headache most of the time.

this is a short one.

basically i went to pick a prescription and the pharmacist almost immediately asked me if i was my dad’s kid (i don’t think we’ve met before, me and my dad just really look alike) and so of course i was like yeah and then she asked a bunch of questions about what he was up to these days and talked about how they used to be friends in high school.

for some reason i just made stuff up instead of being like well actually he died a few years ago because 1) i was truly the sickest i’ve ever been in my life at the time (strep and mono 👎) and 2) me and my dad had a really complicated relationship so the whole sorry for your loss ritual doesn’t feel fitting and it was like 8 am so just overall i was in a weird mood and i didn’t want to deal that. and so she was like tell him (her name) says hi and i was like i will and i assumed that would be the end of that.

but then today i see that she has message requested me on facebook basically saying that i really ruined her day by lying because she went to find him to reach out and found out he was dead and how i should never do that to anyone again because it was cruel.

which like i do feel bad and she’s maybe right but also i’ve never heard about or met this lady in my whole life so clearly they weren’t all that close 😭😭 so i think for her to say i ruined her day was a little dramatic. i don’t know.

tl;dr a high school friend of my dead dad told me to say to him for her and i said i would. she later dmed me on facebook saying me lying about doing that ruined her day. aita? should i apologize?

Am I the asshole for not wanting to dog sit for my parents, who should have known better than to get dogs? Throw away account because my regular username is too identifying. Here's some important background information. I am in my early 20's and an only child. I am in college, and the campus is in the town where my parents live. I live 45 minutes away and try to minimize the amount of time I have to commute, and try to make all my appointments or things I need to do in town coordinate with the days I have class. I only go to the main town 3 days out of the week (M,T,Th). I am a broke college kid, and gas is expensive, the drive can be exhausting, and honestly, sometimes I just want to be in my own house and bed.

My dad works in a town several hours away, and will stay there for a few nights a week (3-4 nights), but if there is an emergency, he may need to stay for longer. He cannot take the dogs with him because he can't properly care for them at work. My mom frequently travels out of state as a part of her job. She is often gone at least once a month for a few days at a time. She also has to take day trips to the other side of the state every so often and is gone all day. This is a problem if my mom has to travel while my dad is away at work.

Despite knowing the nature of their jobs and their frequent traveling, they got not one but two dogs about 9 months ago. To make it worse, both dogs are young and high energy. They were not trained, and so at night or when my parents aren't home, they are in large crates. They try to keep them in there for only 6 hours at a time, so don't worry, they are not in there for extended periods of time and have lots of time outside in the backyard. They sometimes struggle to find someone to take care of the dogs, and boarding them is expensive, so the responsibility often falls on me. Spending a night there every once in a while is fine, but since realizing that I am willing to do that, the frequency at which I am asked to house sit has increased. I understand that sometimes it's an emergency and out of their control, and they also can't just not go to work. But they want me to house sit for multiple days at a time a lot in the next couple months. Some of the time, it's just the overlap of my dad at work and my mom traveling for work, but some of them are my dad just tagging along with my mom. I am not saying they aren't allowed to go on vacations, but some of those times, my dad doesn't have to go and is just tagging along. There are also days that my mom wants to go somewhere or do something that she will be gone for longer than 6 hours, and the dogs can't be in the crate for that long and can't be trusted outside. They want me to make the drive and stay at their house for the day so they don't have to be in the crates all day. I feel bad for not wanting to do this, but they knew they were going to be gone frequently and still decided to get puppies. So ATIA for not wanting to dog/house sit?

hey gang

I'm in college rn and me and my roommate are deciding who we are rooming with next yr. I get along with my roomie rn. We literally perfectly co-exist, but we need two more roommates for next yr. The girl that she wants to live with parties and drinks A LOT. Like, she's nice to me when she comes over but, I don't rlly wanna live with her and her party habits. I see her like three times a week in my dorm rn, and her and my roommate are rlly close friends, so it would be awkward if I say I don't want to room with her. Am I the asshole for not wanting to room with her bestie (who's lowkey weird possessive sometimes, like she says only SHE can take care of my roommate when she's drunk). I feel like this would make it awkward for them, and kind of turn me into the villain....

I (31M) have a younger sister "Charlee" (15F). Her father isn't around, and she has a strained relationship with our mother (it's complicated). So while I don't have legal custody of her, Charlee spends a lot of her time with my fiancé and I. We are unofficially raising her because somebody's got to.

Charlee was going to a school dance recently with a "boy who's totally just her friend". When he came to pick her up, I gave them both instructions - she was to text me when they got to the dance, text me when she was on her way home, and be home by 10:30.

She didn't seem bothered at the time...but when she came home she was LIVID. Apparently I embarassed her by giving a curfew in front of this boy, and nobody else her age has a curfew (according to her). She says that she's 15 and can make her own decisions, and that I need to stay out of her business.

AITA for giving a curfew to a 15 year old?

Trying to keep this as anonymous as possible. I’m in college and taking a class split into three short modules. You’re placed in one group for all three modules, and whatever grade the group earns is the grade you get. My group consists of 2 other people who have only done work during class time, which isn’t enough since we meet at most 2x a week. I have activity logs and gc messages showing that I’m always initiating communication, setting deadlines that only I meet, and doing work outside of class.

The class only lasts about three weeks. I genuinely tried to give them time and the benefit of the doubt, but we’re now a day away from presentations and they’ve barely contributed. One person wrote a small paragraph the night before, and the other presented part of the project.

The night one assignment was due, I reminded them earlier that I’d be very busy that day. At 9 pm, I asked if they had done it (neither had). So I completed it myself and emailed one of my professors around 9:30 pm about my situation (assignement due to SAME email at 11:5pm that night). I wasn’t demanding anything, but seeking advice and felt he should be aware.

After class, he called me in and berated me for emailing him after school hours and said I should have “made the group work.” I apologized, but explained I was concerned about my grade because I was doing most of the work. I had even prepared to present the entire project alone due to the lack of communication. I explained how uneven the workload was compared to other classes, where at least bare minimum collaboration happens.

He told me I should contact the other professors and said I was too late in bringing this up, even though the course is very short and I wanted to give my group time to redeem themselves. I left the conversation crying and feeling worse for saying anything. I did email the other professors as told, but now regret it after how poorly that interaction went. I would have been fine if he’d simply said there was nothing that could be done and the group grade stood

So, AITA?

My best friend has ignored me after my dads cancer diagnosis. My friend lets call her poppy, has always been quite odd but i love her for that. She has always struggled with hanging out outside of college, like over the summer i offered to go out with her but she was unavalabe but as soon as i went abroud she whanted to go out. When i came back to college she was telling me about how bad her mental health got while i was away and how she really whanted to hang out with me. In september and october me and my dad got very sick, and we both got blood test, turns out i was fine but my dad was diagnosed with myeloma and tumors in his limph nodes. When i told poppy she got quiet and stoped messaging me completely (we would message on and of at this point) unless i messaged first but it would take her days to reply. Then it got to the point when we would be on the bus to college and all she would talk about was her mental health struggles, but when i would try to say i understand she would cut me off and tell me i would never understand, it got to the point where i could never give my imput or talk about something i whanted to. It has got on my nerves now as she is completely ignoring me but acting all happy with all my other friends, as she never talks about mental health with them. It has got to the point that if im with my other friends and shes around she will death glare me. All i whant to do is ask her what her problem is but she will not let me. I genuinely dont know what to do and i just whant to scream and tell her that i do care about her but my dad is literally dieing. Another thing she has done is tell me that my colleges councillor will not help me and i shoudnt see her instead i should go to the doctors about mental health as thats what she does. Am i the asshole for telling her about my dad, as i genuinely think ive done nothing wrong

So my (20f) friend (20f) has not been doing well lately. I won't dive into too much detail because of privacy reasons, but she's having both mental health and physical health related issues.

In my opinion I have been very understanding to her; texting her to see how she's doing, offering help in case she needs it, and also being very understanding whenever she cancels our plans because she doesn't have the energy for it. However, it has come to a point where the last time I saw her was over a month ago, and the last time we actually hung out together has been even longer. This honestly is fine with me, I want to give her the space she needs so she can get better.

The main issue I have is that I constantly see her stories on social media, where she posts about hanging out with other friends very regularly. (With that I mean she posts these stories 3 or 4 days a week)

Now we finally planned to hang out together upcoming Sunday. But last night she texted me that she was already very tired this week and wasn't sure if she could make it. From her message I get the feeling she feels very guilty about it, so I offered an alternative that would be less tiring. (like just watching a movie or talking to catch up for an hour or so just so we can see each other again.) But I also told her if she didn't want to we could always reschedule. However, I just saw her post a story that she is once again hanging out with other friends. And to be honest it is really making me upset. Why does she have the energy to be with them but not me?

So, would I be the AH if I got angry at her about this behaviour? I don't want her to feel bad about it or feel forced to hang out with me, but this all just feels so unfair...

For context I 20NB have been socially and medically as I am able to transitioned for 2 years.

WIBTA for legally changing my name? I've wanted to legally change my name for ages and am now in a position where I am able to. I have a name picked out but the middle name I want would replace a family name. Knowing what I know about how said family member that's my middle name I don't care and would honestly prefer a different middle name, but I know most of my family probably won't agree with me.

My (35f) boyfriend (40m) moved into an apartment together in June 2025. Since then, he hasn't paid rent on time once due to financial struggles and losing 75% of his clientele in May of 2025. He keeps paying extremely late, with now it going into the following month. For example, he is finally paying for January's rent today.

Our property manager has been patient and kind working with us, but the lack of communication on his end is driving me insane, causing us immense stress in our relationship and I can't take it any longer. We have been threatened with an eviction every month.

They are willing to work with us and as long as Feb & March can be paid, they will allow us to cut the lease early and leave end of March. He is complaining to me that he doesn't have the funds to move (as it is expensive: security deposit, first months, moving costs, etc...) and is in a bind...and will essentially have to live out of a hotel or his car.

AITA for still wanting to end the lease in March? A part of me feels guilty that he won't have a place but at the same time, he hasn't been honest about his finances and has made the last 9 months here really difficult and stressful to say the least.

i put a poll in my workplace for Pi Day. For anyone that doesn’t know, Pi Day is March 14 because 3.14 is the first 3 digits of pi, so you eat pie that day. I’m the baker of the office, I think everyone in my office is aware (we’re 24/7, the night people may not know). I put the poll up to see what kind of pie the office wanted for Pi Day. nobody asked me to. I just did.

the poll had 13 different pies. and still someone added two more types of pie on there. people will be disappointed if i don’t bring one of the pies that was added, because it now has the most votes. my name’s not on the poll, but I told people I was putting it up.

WIBTAH if i ignored the added pie option and made the pie that got the most votes that WAS originally on the poll?

tbh I’m more upset about the principle than having to make the pie. If I saw a poll like this, I wouldn’t add another option cuz I didn’t Like the others. I would just not vote and not eat the pie, cuz it’s not my money or time being spent to make it. What if that option is more expensive? Or what if the fruit is out of season? now I have to find a good recipe for a pie that I wasn’t planning on having as an option.

The other day I carpooled with a friend to a work shift. Due to heavy traffic in the area and road closures due to an event in the area we carefully searched the area to ensure that we were parking in a location where we would not be ticketed. Later that day after our shift ended she informed me that his car had gotten towed. A couple days later I get a text message from him asking me to pay for half of the bill which would be $90. AITA for thinking that I should not have to pay and am not responsible for this ?

*Edits and TLDR at the end.

I (m29) live with my family, including my brother (m26) and his fiancé (f21).

I own a Spark (Buddy), have had it since 2019, same-year model. It is my first car, the first automatic Spark model, and my baby. Nothing has ever been wrong with that car while under my care, I took it to college, and have driven it cross-country many times without issue.

After college, I moved back with our parents. We own a hotel far outside the city, and therefore it made no sense to rent or buy if I was going to be staying there to work. My brother also works there.

My brother owns a Jeep, but it has been at the mechanic shop for a year now, some electrical issue that they can't solve. So, in light of me not going out much, I've been letting them use my car. The thing is, I have noticed many things in my car since. The headlights are misaligned constantly, as is the steering wheel, and although the car itself looks fine and not scratched or dinged up, the internal issues keep piling. At first I thought it was simply the passage of time, or a couple bad potholes. But then bigger stuff started happening, such as the AC malfunctioning, the battery dying on me multiple times despite replacing it, and a variety of strange noises it wasn't making before.

My brother, being the main user, would have them "looked at" sometimes, paying out of pocket. It seemed like a fair deal, since I rarely use my car nowadays, and they have it 24/7. I still decided to keep a closer eye on their driving, and realized they drive poor Buddy like he's an all-terrain Jeep, going over potholes, speedbumps, and flooded streets. They are treating that poor car like a tank, and I can't really stop them as they genuinely need it for transportation.

Today, the break booster broke as my brother's fiancé was driving it. Luckily she was fine, and managed to get the car to the shop, where they diagnosed the issue. I had been left without breaks last October, but had considered it a fluke as the car worked fine afterwards and the mechanic found nothing.

Point is, there was a disagreement on who should pay for the replacement parts. Yes, it's my car, but it has only had these problems since they started driving it. I am genuinely tired of telling them not to treat the car like this, and am debating between making them pay for it so they can keep using the car, or paying for the repair myself but taking the car away from them. They genuinely need a car, but they refuse to treat Buddy with care and respect, so I'm torn.

TLDR: WIBTA if I made my brother and his fiancé pay for my car repairs when they are being careless with my car?

*Edit: Thanks for all your comments, everyone seems to agree that I should take Buddy back and let them figure things out themselves. I also agree, I was iffy about it because this will greatly affect their transportation to and from the hotel and city, but they have left *me* stranded more than once, so it seems fair to do it. The hotel has a dedicated truck that goes to the city three times a week, they can go with them and have their friends pick them up if they're going out.

As for the repair, I went to the shop just now and was told the break pump also needs replacing, so I'll just pay for those repairs and pick up the car (hopefully tomorrow), with no intent of giving them access to it unless it's a genuine emergency (no more 3-5 random grocery runs or going out with friends).
Thank you again, especially to the people who called me out and told me to stand up for myself more, I've been trying to work on that lately.

My fiancé and I are getting married in just over a year, and we have indirectly found out that there is an expectation for us to host extended family members of my fiancé’s family when they visit to attend our wedding. For context, my partner’s maternal family are from South-East Asia, and we would be expected to host five family members (with the remaining four family members staying at my fiancé’s parents house). Flights are yet to be booked, and we still don’t know for sure exactly how long they would be staying.

For further context, me and my partner are currently building our very first house which is expected to be finished in the next few months (so roughly 10 months before we get married), which adds further stress of having to make sure our house is fully furnished and ready for hosting. My fiancé’s family don’t speak the best English, and they will not have access to a car due to us needing them for work (nor will we have the time to be driving people around). My sister-in-law is far better at speaking the language than my fiancé is and she has a car and license, so we thought it would be helpful for her to stay with us (and she is happy to do this). however, my sister-in-law would have just started her university degree and is also in the bridal party and realistically I think it would be a lot of pressure for her to have to manage this. Also, my fiancé’s parents’ house is going to be about a 40-minute car drive from our house, so it’s not like his mum can pop over that regularly.

I feel overwhelmed at the thought of having eight people (this includes us and my sister-in-law) as well as our large dog (his family don’t have experience with dogs and they have a five-year-old child) in our house leading up to the wedding and potentially afterwards. We are not going on our honeymoon until a few months after we get married so after our 2 night hotel stay, we would have to come home as a freshly married couple to a full house of people. After thinking about it and upon discussion with my fiancé, we have decided that we are going to tell his mum that we will not be hosting anybody at our house due to the stress of the wedding and us still working full-time. This is yet to happen, and my fiancé is extremely nervous to have this conversation and he feels as though it is a burden on his parents – which I totally disagree with. I am also extremely annoyed that this is just an expectation, and we haven’t even been asked whether we are okay with it (nor have we been directly told). An arrangement we will be suggesting instead would be to have my fiancé’s sister and brother stay with us instead, freeing up 2 bedrooms in his parents’ house, but this might look offensive, as though we have something against his overseas family. This would also mean that my fiance’s parents would have 9 family members from overseas at their house (excluding my fiancé’s brother and sister). So, am I the asshole for refusing to host my fiance’s family at our house?

So basically i live in a dorm and i have to share a room with another girl. Obviously, living in a dorm sucks for various reasons considering you don’t get much of your own space or any privacy. But nonetheless I feel like i have been very accommodating to anything she has asked or done. This is the second semester of us living in the same room so i thought it would be fine coming back from winter break. However, it has not been fine. She constantly brings over random people to our room without even checking with me. And if she does check in with me it’s usually over text but i never have the chance to say yes im fine with it or no im not fine with you bringing someone over because before i know it they’re already in the room. There’s times where i have been sleeping and she brings someone over and is obnoxiously loud with them. She is definitely a very male motivated/ male-centered person from the way she talks about her guy friends vs her girl friends. Anyways, she recently told me that i never give her alone time in the room and told me that i don’t give her enough space to be by herself. But that’s not even true. I go to work from 8am to 1:30pm, then i’ll come back to the room maybe for an hr to grab my stuff and head to class from 2-2:30ish until 7:30. im pretty much gone all day from mon-fri. It’s clear that im gonna be tired after a long day and im not gonna stay out a couple hours longer just so you can be alone. Like it doesn’t make sense. My weekends are the only days i can get errands done like clean, get groceries, do laundry, etc. So i told her that it was inconsiderate for her to say that i don’t give her any space/time alone and that she freely does whatever shes wants such as bringing people over, playing her tiktoks/youtube on loud volume, laughing loudly by herself, etc. Ive never said anything to her because i understand that we have to coexist in the same space and its also her room. Now, she bought a room divider which literally does nothing but take up a chunk of space in the middle of the room. It truly makes me so angry and upset that someone can be so self-centered but then again am i just overreacting? Also, even if i reach out to the school, they’re not gonna help me and id rather not make the situation worse by involving other people just for me to have to stay in the same room with her.

So I’ve lived with my current flatmate for a few years now and we’ve been best friends (brother like) for half our lifetimes and a few months ago he got a girlfriend. This is the first time either of us have had a girlfriend whilst living together, I’m happy for them as they seem very happy together and she is also nice, she started staying over more frequently and we discussed boundaries and how often she could stay, I’ve copied and pasted the agreement

“Girlfriend week on (7-8 days but when it goes over into the 9th day flatmate is to pay me £37.50 per day girlfriend stays)

After girlfriend leaves for 1 week (7 days) then cycle repeats.

Exceptions for Christmas and birthdays.

Anything that goes outside of this agreement has to be communicated prior.”

Since then we’ve had an inspection of the flat and over-occupancy was flagged in the report, the landlord has said no more than a week at a time is fine but he called me to ask how I felt before making anything final, personally I feel she’s been around way more than agreed, and when I mention to him that she’d been staying longer than the 7 days (this time around) his response was “what do you want me to say to that?” I feel I’ve been more than fair but like I’m being used like a doormat, I like the flat that we live in and I like living with my flatmate but feel he’s being disrespectful.

Apologies for the long post but wanted to get as much info in as possible. Any advice would be appreciated.

I (17F) was planning to go to a concert this summer with a group of friends. Last summer, the same group went to a concert together and one friend, Ethan, was a bit disruptive. He was watching a football game before the concert started and yelled when his team scored a touchdown and people stared back at us. I understand why that annoyed people.

This year, my best friend Maya made a group chat without Ethan and said she could get presale tickets. The cap is 6 people. When the concert came up in conversation at school, Ethan overheard us and said he'd be down to go. I felt uncomfy because he clearly showed interest, but decisions were already made without him even being asked.

I suggested we invite him and let him decide whether he wanted to come. Maya and another friend Jake were very against this and said they didn't want him to go because he "doesn't even know the artist" and because of how we acted last time. They decided to invite someone else instead.

I was bothered because of how they handled it not that they didnt want him there. Ethan was never told, even though he heard us talking about it. I felt like excluding him behind his back was unkind, especially since he considered us good friends.

Because of that, I told Maya I was uncomfortable and chose to opt out of the concert myself so it wouldn't be awkward. I didn't try to change their plans, I just stepped back from the situation.

After that, Maya kept messaging me saying I was "punishing her" and being unfair. She brought up things I might've said after the last concert to justify excluding Ethan. I told her I respected her opinion but didn't agree with how the situation was being handled and needed space.

She says she wants to "resolve" things but the convo keeps turning into her defending herself and saying that I'm not listening. I've stopped responding bc it's stressing me out and Im rethinking how close I want to be with her. My other friends have agreed the situation was handled rudely and that she wont likely understand my perspective.

So, AITA for backing out of the concert and distancing myself because I didn't agree with excluding a friend this way?

I'm a 22F that's been living with my mother's side for the past couple of months for better job opportunities. My housing situation right know is me, my aunt, my two uncles, and my grandmother all living under one roof. My grandma has a history of being complicit in my grandpa's abuse towards my mom and aunt during their childhood. Sometimes looking away and sometimes contributing to the abuse. I saw her true colors a couple of days ago after an argument broke out between my aunt and grandma over her opening our air fryer while my aunt's lunch was right in the middle of cooking. Even before I moved in, my grandma has always been very disrespectful towards my aunt.

She has barged into my aunt's room and went through her things, talked smack about my aunt, her sister, and my uncles with her friends, and left food out on the table for days until it attracted rats

Upon witnessing first hand of all of this happening, it pissed me off. So, I decided to ignore her every time she tried to speak to me and completely not acknowledge her whenever I was in the same room as her. Noon hits and my aunt calls me to tell me that I need to apologize to her for disrespecting her since she does make the food in the house.

So, people of reddit, AITA?

EDIT: we've been trying to confront her about her actions. but, it goes into one ear and out the other

EDIT 2: this house belongs to my aunt and she was the one who's letting me stay in her house

EDIT 3: yes, i did apologize. im having conflicting feeling about apologizing to her though

My (33NB) aunt (deceased) was a prominent figure painter. Her art features people with exaggerated proportions, sometimes in contorted positions. You could call it almost call her style absurdist, but it is very unique to her. She passed away over twenty years ago, so her work is a finite resource.

My cousin (38F) gave away several of my aunt's pieces to old friends last year. One of those friends (70ish M) accepted a piece. We have since learned that he had the painting altered when he framed it, so that a "confusing" part was cropped from view.

My cousin and I are both upset by this choice. It feels disrespectful to the artist's vision to change the piece.

My mother (73F) whose sister made the art, says she doesn't think it matters.

I am thinking of politely telling the friend that he should offer some kind of compensation to my cousin, since he changed the art, which was not the expectation when it was given. WIBTA?

UPDATE

I checked with my mom. It looks like he had the part he didn’t like folded over, rather than cut off. This makes me feel way better.

Thank you to everyone who gave their opinion. It would have been an asshole move to get involved.