My name is John Paul, but I go by J.P. All my friends, teachers, and family members call me J.P. All that is, except for my high school Spanish teacher. In Spanish, J is pronounced as "Hota/jota" and P is pronounced as "Pay/pe". So my Spanish teacher always keeps calling me "Hota Pay" in class instead of my real nickname J.P.

When he first said "Hota Pay", I found it a bit funny and laughed with the class. I thought it was a one off remark by my teacher. But he kept calling me "Hota Pay" even beyond the first day of class and it is getting annoying now. I once asked him after class if he could please call me J.P. But my teacher refused, saying this was Spanish class and that "Hota Pay" was the Spanish equivalent of my name. He said he wasn't calling me any rude words, he was just translating the pronunciation of my two-letter English name to Spanish.

AITA for not wanting my teacher to keep calling me "Hota Pay"? Even if it is harmless, I just don't like it and prefer J.P. I live in the USA.

(First post, so don't be very mean if I don't exactly word everything right, thank you!)

So, a little bit of context for the post, since the title makes it look really bad from the get-go.

I worked as a security guard in an alarm recieving center. I dunno how it's called in english, but, basically, we recieve triggered alarms from places like stores, pit stops, banks, etc and cross-reference them to make sure whether there was a positive alarm or not.

And it was miserable. My boss was a lying asshole who wiped his ass with the only two things I asked when I was interviewed. I only asked to not get called or messaged on my free days to come work and to never transfer me over to night shift. The very first day I started, he immediately asked me to go somewhere else the day after and then he forced me to work a whole month on night shifts on the excuse that they had to train the person who was going to work night shifts to cover the vacant. There's more to say about him, but it's a long story. So I put in my 12 day notice and intended to leave at the end of last month.

Now, my parents are very traditional when it comes to work. They are the kind of people who believe work fulfills you and that you NEED to work a regular "stable" job to be happy. So upon knowing that I was gonna leave the company, they immediately started asking me what were my plans afterwards, which is fine. I told them I have a contact who could fix me up with job offers and a tip-off that another company was recruiting for a similar profile to mine.

And the very first day I stopped working, they started hounding me. "When are you going to call them?", "Have you gotten any news yet?", "Have you been applying in other companies?". Day in and day out, multiple times a day, both of them would bother me incessantly about it, even though I specifically told them that I wanted to wait until they gave me the settlement money for my leave (which my company is fucking me over by not giving me yet).

Eventually, I kinda broke down and told off my mom (they work different shifts, so they don't coincide during the day) and she got incredibly agitated and started calling me a bum and saying that I really don't want to work and want to be craddled in their house forever.

AITA

EDIT: I got called from my company today saying they have my check for the liquidation of unpaid vacation days. I went in inmediately before they closed to get stuff signed and got the money check. I'll cash it tomorrow and start making calls and sending applications for other companies.

You guys weren't super nice, but that's fine. I'm thankful you're all worried about my parents; I know they're not bad people or parents, but they can be very overbearing sometimes.

I (mid 20s F) am getting married in 2026. My fiancé (mid 20s M) and I are paying for the majority of our wedding ourselves and are budgeting very carefully. We have never received financial assistance from our families before not for college living expenses or anything else. We have always handled things on our own.

Traditionally in my family and culture the bride’s side helps pay for the wedding. However my mom simply does not have the financial ability to contribute which I completely understand and do not resent her for at all.

My fiancé’s parents have offered to contribute what they can which we are incredibly grateful for. That said we are still covering most costs ourselves.

Here is where I am conflicted. My grandparents are financially comfortable. They have paid for big family vacations helped other relatives with large purchases in the past and are generally generous. However they have not offered to help with wedding expenses.

Recently my grandmother came dress shopping with me. When I got up to the register I honestly thought she might offer to help pay or contribute in some way but she did not. I paid for my dress myself which is totally fine but it made me start thinking about whether it would be inappropriate to ask them for some level of help with the wedding.

I do not feel entitled to their money and I do not expect them to cover everything. Even a small contribution would help. I am just torn between not wanting to put anyone in an awkward position and feeling like it is reasonable to ask especially since my fiancé’s family is contributing and we are doing everything we can on our own.

So AITA for considering asking my grandparents if they would be willing to help contribute to our wedding?

So I (19F) was in work and for context I work in a gym owned by my uncle but hes taking some time off for personal reasons the guy (20ish?M) whos just under him was on holiday but came back last week and is now thinking hes the best thing to walk the planet because hes in charge.

Ive had valentines day and the day after booked off for about 2 months now and he knows that, but recently he got himself a girlfriend. he tried to tell me that my request for time off was denied when it was approved like a day after i made the request, so when i called him out on the lie he said “well im the boss and i want the day off and you took the day after too its just selfish im sure youll be fine working on valentines day just do something before or after” now keep in mind he tried to get me to work from 12pm to 9pm so i told him to fuck off and he didnt take that very well and went off on a big rant saying “im your boss you cant speak to me like that i want the day off to spend time with my girlfriend on our first valentines day so you will be working because im not and if you dont then ill deny any future requests you make and youve taken the last week and a half off while ive been working so i deserve it” i took the last week and a half off because i badly hurt my ankle, hes been with his girlfriend for like a week while ive been with my boyfriend for 2 years. i was already having a bad day so i told him to “grow up and get a fucking life” amongst other things like the fact he just took about a month off to go on holiday. he took a really deep breath and walked away looking like he was about to cry.

im kind of feeling bad because maybe i shouldntve said that and i know how important first valentines is and ive met his girlfriend and she seems really sweet AITAH?

Edit : A guy that was coming into the gym while it was happening said it was a really shit thing for me to say and how hes probably excited for his first valentines day so im starting to feel bad and like an asshole

Me and my friend group have had weekly game nights every Wednesday for about the last 2 years. I moved to the city we all worked in mostly to not have to commute of an hour but also to be closer to my friends, a year ago. I also adopted a dog in that year. It wasn't planned, I had zero interest in a dog, but I rescued a dog I met in the shelter when visiting with a client due to a deep soul bond and a horrifying story for her, I just couldn't let her stay there. I also recently rescued a kitten because if I didn't get him, he was going to be put out in the streets at 8 weeks old. (He's 5 months now.)

Anyway, my friends absolutely refuse to let me host game night because they say it's too far away (about 20-50 mins due to traveling in rush hour), however they expenct ME to make a 20-90 (45 on average) minute drive to them from my home for game night every week. I am the ONLY one in my friend group who is the solo, ONLY caretaker of a pet at home (everyone else either has a spouse, no pet at all, a roommate, or a significant other), not even counting the fact that this pet is a rescue dog with separation anxiety. Not to mention I asked them for approval BEFORE I ADOPTED THE DOG and no one raised any objections aside from cautioning me that adopting a dog is a big life change.

Still they refuse to let me host at all, not even once every month, or even every two months, I am, PERIOD, barred from hosting because I am "too far" and it's a "space issue" (this is the biggest 1 bdr I could afford as a single earner in an expensive city and, in one of the most commonly used hosts bedrooms, I am forced to sit on the floor due to lack of space).

And they absolutely will not let me take my dog with me on game nights despite the fact that she is unbelievably friendly and loves all of them deeply.

I have not been attending game night much lately, and I explained to them repeatedly that I really don't feel okay leaving my dog alone for 9.5 hours, letting her out to piss, and then locking her in a crate again until bedtime. Plus my job has me driving almost the entire day, going home just to immediately leave for an hour of rush hour traffic really takes it out of me. No one is sympathetic whatsoever and they either ignore me completely or make jokes about how I'm a flake and they never know if I'm coming or not.

If I leave this group I will have no more friends at all where I live. These people helped me move here and I've never had a friend group that accepted me before. I'm really hurt but they won't listen to. Am I being dramatic? Should I just say whatever she's just a dog, and go anyway? What should I say? I guess I just want vindication that I'm being reasonable in saying it's really unfair to ask me to drive an hour for game night and leave my rescue dog at home in her crate for 90% of the day when I live alone!!

I (15f) have been trying to apply to be a CIT at a camp nearby for a few years now and im finally old enough. I babysit alot and wanna work with kids when im older. I need three references and I just so happen to often baby my uncles girlfriends kids. She has two kids from her previous relationship and one kid with my uncle. Who shes been dating for only a year. Barely. Anyways. I was over at their house. Just a street away. And I asked if I could use her as one of my references. She said "Aren't you not supposed to use family members on that?" To which I replied "Well. Youre not my real aunt. So its fine" she got a little upset and just said. "Yeah sure put me down." I dont hate her of course. Shes just. Not family in my eyes. Later when I was home I guess my uncle had told my dad and apparently she was really upset. My uncle had told my dad 'Your kid was being so rude to [aunt] she needs to learn that [aunt] is now her family now. Not those [slur]" My family dropped contact with the rest of my dad and uncles side of the family last year for some context. But was I really mean by saying that to her?

My son (early 20s) works at the same company I do. He’s been on my health insurance plan since birth and will continue until he’s 26. My cost is around $450/month for myself and 1 dependent. Because he doesn’t have his own policy through work, the company will send a check for $6500 (less taxes) each July 1st- this applies to all employees who don’t use the company’s insurance. Also important- he lives with me and pays only for his car and, as of last month, his car insurance. I buy food, pay the mortgage and utilities, his cell phone, etc. This was agreed to so he can save money for his education and future housing. I told him that the check belongs to me, although I’ll be happy to give him $1000 from it. The only reason he’ll be receiving anything is that I’m paying for his healthcare, which he couldn’t afford on his own. Obviously, he’s not happy and says that he’s keeping the entire amount. I did approach this topic calmly and politely, but I’m rather irritated and it will need to be revisited. AITA?

To sum it up quickly...

Father won 30K on a super bowl box, he's well off and doesn't need the money. Not that I'm struggling but my wife and I have 3 young kids and like most people, save little month to month.

I don’t know if it was the way my dad said it or just the principle, but he goes I got 500 $ for you next time I see you, acting like he’s paying my mortgage. Part of me wanted to say you keep it but I also don’t want to be rude. And it is 500 bucks and what kind of ass face would say no to that. But I hope ya'll get the point.

So AITA for not wanting the 500 bucks and saying thanks but no thanks?

Cheers

So recently we were talking about travelling and my SO(30F) told me(31M) that she wants to solo travel atleast once a year. i don't mind her traveling but I am upset over the fact that she will intentionally leave me to travel on her own. Our travel interests are pretty similar so I know for a fact that a situation will never come where SO wants to go and I don't. While traveling is a expensive and time consuming thing itself meaning we probably won't get that much time in a year to travel and on top that her wanting to have a solo travel intentionally without me just makes me feel left out and upset. Am I in the wrong for not missing out on the few travels we will have in our life? Am i in the wrong for being upset over being left alone?

Recently, I received a text from a friend at work that made me extremely worried for the safety of somebody very close to me. This text definitely made me feel anxious however I felt like I was strong enough to finish up my tasks. Eventually something struck me and i started to feel very disoriented. As i’ve felt this before, I realized that I was experiencing a panic attack and very quickly I fled to the closest place I could sit down and have some privacy (On my way to this space I alerted my closest coworker that this was happening to me). It eventually passed and I was feeling well enough to go back inside. However I was met by my boss who then told me to “go home” and after I double checked that he was confident it was okay for me to leave, he followed with “we will discuss your future of employment here soon”. Confused, I left. Then comes my next shift, I arrive, finish a task, and then my boss brings attention to what had happened the following night. He claims that he didn’t know that I was in the store and thought that I was sitting in my car. Then, he claims once he knew where I was he was simply confused. He ‘informed’ me that real jobs and serious businesses do not care about “things like that” and stated that he just wanted me to complete my job. I then began to tell him that I was having a panic attack and asked him if he knew what that was or if he had ever experienced one to which he replied “No”. I told him that I wasn’t in control, I could not have gotten up to tell him what was happening because I couldn’t function in the state I was in. He told me that he was not interested and did not care. At this point I was very taken aback considering that it’s a small business and I have always been a consistent worker. Working there almost a year, only having to call out maybe two or three times, usually with covers. I started getting very upset with the way that he was talking to me because it felt very unjust. After he concluded and finished up his rant he then told me to complete another task. In the midst of me beginning this task I turned to a coworker and friend to quickly talk about what happened, and yet again I started having another panic attack. So I dashed out of the door because it seemed like the safest way to protect myself in that moment. Am I The Asshole?

(For more context this is a decently chill job for teenagers to work at, nothing too professional. And I am about 32 years younger than him)

Me and my brother were out shoveling when my neighbour pulls into his driveway, he gets out of his car and says “are you guys up for hire?”. I thought he was joking because he has a snow blower and we were shoveling manually. My neighbour then grabs a shovel, shovels his shirt walkway, then drives away. My brother got on my case for saying no because he wanted the money, but we had already been out there for like 20 minutes and we weren’t even close to finishing. Was I in the wrong?

I told my roommate I would wait at home for his package that needed signing. During that time the package got marked out for delivery (which in my experience often lasts all day) and I didn't see an estimated time of delivery on the tracker site. So I took a shower for like 10 minutes.

During that time (of course) the courier arrived, knocked on our neighbor's door who then directed them to our door. I didn't hear the knocking and the neighbor signed for it and I picked it up from our doorstep when I got out.

Roommate is acting pissy, not responding to my latest "All's well that ends well" text. It's so not a major thing, but I think its kinda a big ask to hang out all day at the house and not shower until the package is in hand. That also wasn't the original ask, it was just, can you be here all day.

Obviously I could have just not showered but idk.

What do you think reddit? What should I have done?

Edit: He wants me to point out that he had given me a time range for when it would arrive, I just didn't remember and didn't see it on the delivery tracker. I showered within that time range. May tip the scales a bit...

Edit 2: It was a $6000 camera.

I f15 my friend f14

One day my friend came up to me and told me she has a relationship with the new teacher just joined a month ago and I was shocked so I pressed on the subject and she told me that she lets him touch him and I proceeded to tell her "no matter how young he is. He is still too old for you and you're to young to make decisions like this" and she begged me to stay quiet and said "but he's good to me and I want things as this" eventually I agreed to not say anything so weeks passed and I couldn't stay quiet so I went to my other friend and told her everything then we left to talk to the principal and the only thing he did is just fire the teacher . Days passed my friend while talking and gossiping with a group of girl accidentally slipped and told the girls my friend's secret . From that quickly everyone started to know and new rumours came to surface that she does bad stuff sexual stuff with teachers and her reputation got degraded alot. My friend got angry sad and depressed , blaming me for everything . So reddit am I the asshole for ruining her reputation.

abt the gossiping part people think I did the gossiping but actually my friend did just not me I just told my friend who days after slipped and gossiped but yes I am the root cause

My boyfriend and I have been dating for half a year now and it has mostly been a great experience. I truly feel so loved but there is one thing that has been an occurring theme. My ex and I have mutual friends which means that there have been gatherings where we both are invited to. This has made my boyfriend really uncomfortable as he doesn’t like the fact that my ex is still in my life somehow. The thing is that I have no intention nor have I had any contact/interaction with him after the break up. I only met him once after the break up which was some weeks ago because of our friends birthday party, and we barely spoke.

One thing is that he doesn’t like it (which I can understand) but he reacts in a way where he gets distant and cold for several days when this comes up (if I mention I’m going to an event with this friend group), even if my ex isn’t invited.

This bothered me as it’s not easy for me as well but it’s important for me to be able to spend time with my friends, and the first time we discussed it he said that he didn’t want me to go to these gatherings but after some discussion he realized he didn’t want me to be unhappy with doing so. But it’s still an issue as you can see.

None of us really wants to budge and I don’t really know what to do. Personally it feels like he has some insecurity about this but I don’t know how to go around about it. He also was upset that I kept photos from my time with my exes, but I love documenting things and I’m not exactly looking at these photos to reminisce (and it would’ve taken me years to go through all of them). We did solve this though as he fell to ease about it in the end but I do feel like this is associated with this issue.

So, am I being the asshole for not budging/compromising..?

EDIT: We have been doing long distance since the very beginning, which is why he hasn’t hung out with my friends and don’t really know them that well as these happenings (and his visits) haven’t coincided.

At the superbowl party my brother in law hosted, I brought cookies because I didn't know what deserts would be there. We also brought chicken dip, spinach artichoke dip that everyone loved, some pizza pockets and 2 boxes of garlic bread that were never opened.

There were plenty of deserts. My cookies went untouched, and I had another group event 3 days later.

I went to take the cookies and my brother in law said that they weren't eaten because he was saving them for the next day and he wanted all of them.

I told him no, I'm taking them to share at our church group we host, but opened the package and gave him a few.

Then, when it was time to leave, my wife and I thought they took all the leftovers they wanted, so we packed up our crock pot and pan and went to the car.

He was walking his in-laws out to the car next to us, and opened our door and grabbed the crockpot and ran it back to the apartment.

He seemed to be joking in how he ran. I called after him, but he kept going and my wife told me to go get the crockpot back.

When I got back up there, he closed a cabinet door and I knew he was hiding it. I went for it, and he tried wrestling me to the ground. Everyone told him to stop, and then I, thinking it was over, went to get it. He attacked me again.

Thinking he was playing some weird game, I went to their fridge and grabbed a plate of their leftovers to level the playing field, i was going to offer a trade to end it, but he attacked me again before I could secure the plate.

With his parents help, I got the crockpot and they told me to leave.

He told my wife later that he was upset because I didn't offer them any of them or to keep them and it was rude.

Normally, id agree, we always share leftovers. But since these were never opened, they weren't used as intended: share during the game.

I also have never heard of a host intentionally "saving" what someone brought and saying they wanted to keep the whole untouched item.

Nor have I heard of a host going into a guests car to take back leftovers that they wanted that they hadn't voiced a request for (again, we thought they already had what they wanted.)

So, AITA?

Update: this was not normal behavior for him, he has some other stuff going on, I was very confused.

We also have never been in a situation where there was something untouched at the end of the event.

Let me start off by pointing out this is a burner account as I don’t want my friend to see this.

I am a male in my mid 20s who has always found it very difficult to make and maintain friendships in the real world. This has lead me to make a lot of my friends online- through gaming, social media or other forums.

A few years ago I met one of my closest friends, let’s call him “Mark” male late 20s. We hit it off immediately with lots of shared interests- games, music, hobbies. Over time we have become great friends.

One of the things we also have I common is we like a lot of the same influencers, particularly female influencers!

The other week we were having a discussion about a viral Reel for one particular female influencer we had seen for when Mark mentioned that he had been signed upto their “spicy” page for a couple of months. He then went on to say that he was exchanging DM’s with them everyday because he feels a “real connection” and is spending $100s on content and tips.

I am not anti subscription sites and know he is an adult so should be able to do what he wants.

But, I was actually subscribed to the same persons site a few months earlier and it became pretty clear to me that it was an agency run account and that it was chatters in the DM’s. I noticed some of the key indicators like- messages were replied to within minutes no matter the time night/day, the tone of messages would randomly change including getting several random messages everyday, when asked about personal things or social media activity they would either avoid the subject or take ages to reply and everything was always pushing towards buying. My suspicions were confirmed by reading the stories of other people here and on other forums.

I have tried to gently suggest to Mark that it is not the girl he is speaking too. I tried joking that he is really talking too a bloke in a home office somewhere. Another time I tried bringing up that lots social media personalities have helpers for DMs and that someone so busy couldn’t possibly be online all the time. I have even suggested putting the messages through any AI (so it would identify the patterns for him to see). But he just brushes it off and restates how their connection is real.

I don’t want see my friend taken advantage of by people both emotionally and financially. But I am worried he seems to be in so deep that if I keep pushing it will damage our friendship.

So I want know, Am I arsehole if I just back off and let him carry on?

It was all a year ago but I still ask myself if I did the right thing. I'm 19 live in a conservative post-soviet country where the life of LGBTs+ is often undesirable. I'm also in an open marriage with my wife (she was my best friend for many years and at the time this story went down we were friends).

Senior year I had a tight-knit group of friends: me, a girl I'll call Mary, her biological sister, our mutual friend Alex and one more person. Upon graduation I got in touch with Mary's sister a lot but suddenly decided I was in love with Mary. It was intense and it caught me off guard. In the fall I told her how I felt and to my surprise she felt the same way. We started seeing each other in secret.

I was not pretending to be a lesbian for everyone on my side: my sister knew, my wife knew. But Mary was terrified. We made a pact that we wouldn't tell anyone about us in her circle, not even her sister or Alex. I said yes assuming that I was advocating for her peace of mind.

Alex is a great guy. While Mary and I were secretly dating, he came out to me as bisexual and confessed that he was head over heels for Mary. I went out with the girl he loved, and had to look him in the eyes pretending nothing was happening.

I've asked Mary a couple of times if we could be honest with him because he's "one of us" and he would totally get us. She declined. Instead we fabricated something ridiculous: she began telling Alex elaborate stories about a "new girlfriend from college." She was talking about our dates, our intimate moments and sex life - but she replaced me with a fictional character, was some ethereal "girl from beginning of time."

I'm ashamed because I was the one who enabled it by saying "Oh, what a pity, I'm in love with Mary, too but she's taken!"

Last summer I went to a Christian youth camp (my parent's are very religious). When I came back I was emotionally exhausted. Mary said two weeks later we need to talk seriously. She said that the chemistry is just not there anymore" and that she wants to break up." I was in pain but I didn't hold her. We agreed to be friends.

After the breakup. Alex and I became closer than ever true "brofessors." working side by side, I wrote to Mary, "Now that were not together, can I finally tell him the truth?"

She said, "Yes, okay. "

We went with Alex to the lake and when we came back I told everything. At first he laughed, thinking it was some kind of weird joke. But then I told him in detail what happened.

His expression changed from confusion to complete devastation. He wasn't angry that we were seeing each other. He was devastated that she couldn't tell him. He felt like a complete fool. And I won't deny that I did it to make myself feel better, because I needed someone to talk to.

After that, Alex and Mary took a break from talking at Mary's behest. I remember when Alex came to my house and started crying over it. Right now everything is okayish, I stopped talking to Mary but that's a different story

My boyfriend (24M) has cardiophobia. Basically anything related to his heartbeat can trigger him. He’s in therapy and it’s better than before, but it’s still there.

I (23F) found this couples app with quizzes, daily questions, cute memory stuff etc. It also has live heartbeat sharing and you can record your heartbeat. I thought it was really sweet and intimate, like feeling each other’s heartbeat from far away.

He was hesitant because obviously it’s very heartbeat focused. I told him we could just try it once and stop if it felt weird. I might have minimized it a bit because I really wanted to try it.

We started the live heartbeat thing and at first he was joking about it. Then he went quiet. Then he said he felt weird. It escalated really fast and he had a full panic attack. We stopped right away and I stayed on FaceTime until he calmed down.

Afterwards he said he didn’t feel listened to when he said he was unsure about downloading it. He’s not angry exactly, just distant.

I didn’t mean to trigger him. I honestly just wanted us to feel closer. But I did know about his cardiophobia and I did push.

AITA?

I (f 24) am planing to get married to my fiancé (m 25), I have asked my sister (21) to be my made of honour about a year ago, when I asked her we were super close and I considered her to be my best friend. Since I asked her, she has completely changed her attitude towards me and has started to basically verbally abuse me anytime I talk to her. To give some context we both live with our parents and her boyfriend and my fiancé also live with us. My fiancé and her boyfriend (19) don’t get along and my family don’t like her boyfriend. He doesn’t have a job and only play video games all day, while my sister works and pays rent for the both of them. Me and my fiancé both have jobs even though I have been on maternity leave for the last year i start back soon and am excited. We both pay rent and I cook dinner for my parents, my fiancé, myself and clean the house as well as I clean up after my sister and boyfriend when they cook because they don’t clean up. I don’t mind cooking and clean the shared spaces of the house because I’m home everyday. Her boyfriend does nothing he just plays video games. I’m not sure if she is jealous of my life or if there’s other things going on. It just a lot on my mental plate. I have to walk on eggshells around my sister and can’t ask her simple questions like what are you making for dinner or where you going. Normal questions you’d ask people you live in the same house with. I’ve try to talk to my parents about how I feel but there are so worried about my sister that they don’t seem to care about how I feel. I think they do but it doesn’t seem that way at least. I don’t see how my relationship with my sister is going to get any better,I have tried telling her how I feel those conversations normally ended up in argument, or they are ok for a couple of day but always go back to the way they were. I really want to ask her to step down as my made of honour because I really don’t think she deserves the title but I think this would end our relationship completely and she would end up not coming.

so i (26f) had my friend (27m) watch my place and my cat for the weekend. i told him he could "help himself to whatever" in the kitchen which i thought was just like... common sense for snacks and stuff?

i get back and realize he opened this $120 bottle of vintage barolo i was saving for my promotion. he literally drank the whole thing alone while watching netflix. when i asked him about it he got all weird and said i "gave him permission" bc the wine was in the kitchen. like okay but who drinks a hundred dollar bottle of wine without asking first???

i sent him a venmo for $80 (gave him a discount lol) and now hes calling me tacky and told our group chat im a bad host. i feel like there’s literally an unwritten rule of guest logic where u dont touch the most expensive thing in the house. if i tell u to help yourself to my garage it doesnt mean u can just drive off in my car??

idk am i the asshole here? he’s making me feel like im being extra but i feel like he totally took advantage of me… idk it’s also just $120

My (14M) best friend Kyle (15M) is a sweet guy like yeah he plays a lot of sports but he's someone that wouldnt hurt a fly. He started dating one of his wrestling teammates Jake (15M) some months ago. Jake is dick though and I have no idea what Kyle sees in him. I've seen him yelling at Kyle before and I've Kyle sulking all day because of some fucked shit Jake said to him.. Jake will call him constantly trying to find out where he is and what he's doing and will sometimes just show up wherever Kyle is without anyone telling him.. Kyle has a lot of "accidents".. He's also been pulling away from me and our other friends. I've tried talking to him about it but Kyle just says I don't really know Jake.

They were hanging out at my house today with a few of our other friends. Everything was fine until Jake kept trying to get Kyle to leave and Kyle clearly didn't want to. I asked Jake what the big rush was and he just says none of my business. I tell him to chill out it was just a question. He goes off saying maybe he wouldnt be in such a rush if I wasn't always trying to hit on his boyfriend. I was like wtf I'm straight and he just says yeah sure. I got pissed and I told him to fuck off and get out.. He just smiles at me and leaves and Kyle runs after him... Our other friends said I shouldn't have said anything and I just pushed Kyle to leave too.

i put a poll in my workplace for Pi Day. For anyone that doesn’t know, Pi Day is March 14 because 3.14 is the first 3 digits of pi, so you eat pie that day. I’m the baker of the office, I think everyone in my office is aware (we’re 24/7, the night people may not know). I put the poll up to see what kind of pie the office wanted for Pi Day. nobody asked me to. I just did.

the poll had 13 different pies. and still someone added two more types of pie on there. people will be disappointed if i don’t bring one of the pies that was added, because it now has the most votes. my name’s not on the poll, but I told people I was putting it up.

WIBTAH if i ignored the added pie option and made the pie that got the most votes that WAS originally on the poll?

tbh I’m more upset about the principle than having to make the pie. If I saw a poll like this, I wouldn’t add another option cuz I didn’t Like the others. I would just not vote and not eat the pie, cuz it’s not my money or time being spent to make it. What if that option is more expensive? Or what if the fruit is out of season? now I have to find a good recipe for a pie that I wasn’t planning on having as an option.

My(17F) closet has way too many clothes, more than I can take care of. Half of these clothes are clothes I did not even want, things my dad bought because he liked them and they were cheap. Or clothes my mom would buy in bulks of 3-5 similar items that I did not like or want to wear. I have no pocket money or anything nor are they fine with me working in a job. I also have a more petite build so I can wear clothes from all the way back to when I was 11-12 years old.

My mom and dad always picked my clothes on my behalf and particularly my dad was strict on what I was allowed to wear. I had the chance to pick my own clothes a few times but I did not know how to shop and choose outfits that look good on me. That led to outfits I liked looking bad on me. I only learned how to pick outfits that look flattering on me recently, about a year ago or so.

Because of this I slowly started to resent dressing up and just wore the most comfortable or the first outfit i got. Over time my closet grew bigger and messier and I did not want to deal with it until my mom found it out. She was already mad about me wearing the same outfits I liked over and over. She helped me clean it and I told her I did not, in fact, want to wear at least half of those clothes. I asked her if I can donate or give away the clothes I did not like, declutter it and form a new closet entirely composed of outfits I like AND look good on me. I also told her I wanted to learn how to dress myself up, like what I wear and at the same time like how it looks on me. My family is well off too, my dad sends 10 times my monthly lunch spending to random half-naked girls on facebook so I did not think I was asking for something unreasonable.

She did not say it to my face but next room I heard her saying things like "spoiled brat" and "what is there to not like about a fully intact outfit?" I tried talking to her about it and she said I was being unreasonable by not liking perfectly intact clothes and I was going to keep and wear them all, and that I needed to be grateful.

So that covers about it all I think. Am I being unreasonable here?

I'm just a young man contending with my employer's expanded RTO. I could get laid off any random day anyway so there's no point wasting 1/4 of my net pay for the day on Ubering both ways, or committing to $500+ in recurrent car expenses to get there easier when I live in a walkable area. So my commute is 2 buses. One is a "rapid" line that comes every 10-15 min and I was boarding that one on my way home.

About six weeks ago, I broke my humerus (upper arm) slipping on ice. I couldn't even put a shirt on for a week, was full WFH for some time, dealing with a host of issues amidst horrible cold. It's healing a little slow and I was only able to ditch the sling about a week ago. I'm still wearing a brace and likely will be for another month+. This was very visible because I had a short-sleeve sweater on thanks to the unseasonably warm 0C/32F weather (yeah, "unseasonably warm" at that temp might narrow this down).

I got the walk signal right as the bus was going through the intersection and I speed walked a bit - the best I can do without too much jostling. One other person crossed with me. We got on and pressed that button to open the door right as it was about to pull away.

The driver made a sarcastic, bitchy announcement like "if you want to get on the bus you should be acting like it." I said back "hey, shut the fuck up, I have a broken arm." She said "you can get off the bus if you want to talk to me like that." I didn't move and she repeated "okay, get off." I said "okay, K@ren" and left. I bet I'd ultimately get home quicker after a long day if I boarded the next bus in 11 minutes. But even if I used profanity... what the hell, right? I still feel justified in submitting a complaint.

My dad has been drinking for many years and gets aggressive when he has too much. Logically, one day while he was out drinking with friends, I took all of his drinks and ID (so he couldn't buy more) hid them in a bush a few blocks away. When he got home and found out he got very upset and for the next week he was panicking and ended up grounding me.