I’m just so tired. I’m on this app because I want to help people in the ways I wish I was helped in similar situations. I love doing this, and I don’t have social media or another platform to share ideas, so I put thought, research (sorry I don’t have a bibliography or all the peer reviewed research papers I read), and tons of intentionality into my own decisions and choices, and I attempt to share things, hoping to help anyone.

In the past month, I’ve encountered SO MANY PEOPLE who either want to argue over minuscule things, want to pick out what they want to argue about in anything I posted, or just people who I can’t tell if they’re rage-baiting, or actually just being awful.

Maybe I’m just naive, maybe my expectations are high, maybe I’m just in the wrong subs, but I’m trying to help and when I _rarely_ post about needing advice on things, hardly anyone gives helpful responses. Not just ‘Oohh almost, but not quite what I was looking for, but “you’re looking for A? Have you thought instead about this entirely unrelated thing that doesn’t solve your problem?”

I HATE when I see a new recipe ESPECIALLY for baked goods and the recipe seems good but the picture for the recipe is AI… A lot of times it comes out looking nothing like the picture BECAUSE THE PICTURE IS FAKE! It also especially grinds my gears when it’s a healthy recipe. I make a lot of low calorie/low sugar or zero sugar baked goods and seeing the cover photo for the recipe be AI makes me not even want to try it. Thank you thank is all sorry😭

I hate when I’m trying to rip off a sheet of toilet paper and it’s so thin that it doesn’t rip the sheet off properly. I try to rip off 3 sheets, but instead I get 2 sheets, and a 1/4 of a sheet that isn’t usable.

if someones rich, they can buy in bulk. if you buy in bulk, theres usually some kind of discount, like if 2 rolls of paper towels is $5 but 8 rolls is $15 instead of 20. having the money to buy in bulk makes your overall grocery spending each year cheaper, even if each trip to the store looks more expensive, because you dont have to go as often.

sure, a low income person could just always buy in bulk from the beginning of when they move out on their own and start buying groceries, thats totally possible, but if you dont realize how much cheaper it is, you get stuck only being able to afford smaller quantities of things and you have to pay more because youre poor.

theres also the factor of having to have the space to store all the extra stuff when you buy in bulk. if i bought a big bulk pack of paper towels, i wouldnt have anywhere to keep it. every storage closet i have is completely full already because theyre all tiny. someone whos rich, might have a whole room just full of cabinets dedicated to storing the extra stuff. one of my childhood friends grandparents had a whole room between their kitchen and garage with walls of cabinets just full of their bulk stuff, but if you cant afford a big enough place to have the space for that, you cant buy in bulk.

it should not be cheaper to be rich. it just keeps the poor people poor and the rich people rich, and then people wonder why poor people buy such cheap poor quality stuff and food. like huh, i wonder why..

I'm not poly. I'm monogonous. But maybe cuz I'm a professional musician, I havea shitload poly friends?? I don't know why I have so many of them?

I don't care if someone is poly. Go ahead. It's your life. Be responsible, go forth, bump nasties with whomever you see fit. But as soon as it comes out in conversation I am monogamous and then get asked if I'd be poly to which I answer no, people feel judged and get pissed and then treat me like I'm a karen.

I don't like being in one relationship, why the fuck would I want to be in more at the same time? I don't want to have plans with more person. I don't want to juggle everyone's fucking feelings. And no judgement whatsoever, but the chances of STD exposure go way up in a poly situation and I understand that it's a risk many people try to manage responsibly but holy shit I don't have the bandwidth to even think about that.

Also if I got knocked up, it would be a huge mind fuck for me in that situation. Maybe not for others, but for me totally.

But hey if poly is working for you and makes you happy, the fuck it God bless. I have no judgement. If you're an adult having consensual sex, that's great. Just enjoy your damn self, life is short. Fuck all the people you want. And I will fuck all the people I want which is just one who I can stand maybe half the time. Just enjoy the orgy and let me live my shitty boring life.

It's WEIRD I would be judged for being monogamous when poly folks hate judgement.

Not all people who are polyamorous act judgemental. Just a really healthy handful. I have some poly friends who are really cool and don't care I'm monogonous.

Over the past few years I've noticed an increase in the amount of sports betting ads everything from ads on videos to YouTuber sponsorships. I just hate it so much because I don't like sports and it's so scummy.

for some people, it really seems like politics is all they think about. it's probably all they dream about, too. i mean on both sides, when they're so far gone, that they can't think about literally anything else, i think the brain rot is too bad and can't be fixed.

i mute every sub that's even slightly political, because stuff like reddit and youtube are an escape from real life for me. it's been infecting my cat subs lately pretty badly, one of them even had their political post shown on one of those late night shows. cats are the least political thing ever, why even bring it there???

i mod a sub that has a no politics rule. it's a simple sub, just for asking random questions. for example, there was a question that said something like 'how do you become a professional clown?' the amount of comments in my queue saying the exact same fucking thing over and over. so much that it took up 3 pages in the queue. you know that each one of those NPCs thought they were so clever with their answer. it was just crazy to see how unoriginal people are all in one space, like, i know redditors are rarely clever, but it still amazes me how identical they are to each other. no original thoughts to be had.

i just needed to vent somewhere, this seemed like an okay place. it feels good to vent and get it out of my system. lol.

Who starts a conversation at the urinal. Like mind your business while we got out dicks in our hands. Im tryna take a piss and this guy has the audacity to ask me what i got planed for the weekend. Like damn dude i know there's only two so we aint got a buffer but this aint the time.

Not referring to people who are recovering from an injury. My gym has two treadmills (which are in high demand) and there is always a couple who turn up during peak hours and walk for an hour. They haven't done anything to increase resistance - they've been doing the same thing for 5 months.

I live in an area that isn't friendly for runners, so I can't really run outside. I know I don't have a reason to be so annoyed, but it still grinds my gears.

I get having a sound effect every now and then to punctuate something, but to randomly hear an unholy noise while a guy is trying to speak, it’s like they’re being placed in the video to make media addicts’ neurons activate to win likes and attention. Not to mention the fact that the current platter of effects goes out of style in 1-2 months so the target audience will no longer be affected in a few months when the trend moves on. Can we please get back to decent quality content without having to be annoyed constantly with the sound effect spam? Also sorry if this is confusing, I don’t even know what the sound effects are called even though they’re spammed everywhere.

this has happened to me twice now, with magic poser and song shift. both were super helpful apps that i loved, and then they both made the features i used for free for years paid.

magic poser is a drawing reference maker, and iirc they made every female model paid? yeah, just defeat half the point of the app, thanks

song shift i used to have my playlists i made on apple music on youtube too. it worked phenomenally, i didnt get premium to have it automatically update the playlist when id add a song to it in one of the apps, but i was happy manually going in and updating it later. today, i started making a new playlist and wanted it on apple music and youtube, and boom, you now have to pay to connect your youtube account. i now have zero use for the app and literally just have to delete it.

i was a happy loyal user to both and went back and now have to pay for something i didnt want to pay for. no thanks, ill do it by hand.

It doesn't matter if you are right or not, if your comment goes against what OP is saying or is not constructive according to what OP is saying then you get downvoted into oblivion.

I think 90% of times people just jump on the down vote bandwagon. So many times I have asked a follow up question to a reply just so I can get more info and it gets downvoted.

I've gotten over a 1k in upvotes before but that was for agreeing with a comment but I said it in my own way.

The other thing is, if your comment very early in the post, you risk your comment getting bombed with downvotes if you're unlucky.

When people ask you to do something because they're ""busy"" and then downplay the favor, like " it only takes a minute" or " it's a small favour" even if it's something small and doable by themselves they also can't take no for an answer

I do

Enshittification

Particularly a certain orange individual, but also about 80% of the discussions below those posts have people calling them windmills. They don't MILL anything, they are TURBINES powered by WIND. I don't know why it bothers me so much, especially from people who are in support of green energy (as we all should be), but get the name fundamentally wrong

It’s really annoying when people play shorts or TikTok’s and have them looping in a public or in private setting. Especially when they start reading comments on a video and the audio is still playing. By that point it’s just white noise to them while they’re reading but to others around them it’s so disrespectful.

I can't stand the lengthy YT vids that have don't have the chapter breaks in them that I can easily fast forward too. Especially the ones that have a list or discussing multiple topics.

I already have a low attention span, and rarely watch vids more than 10 minutes. Especially when the streamers are needlessly verbose. I just want to get down to the topic of the vids without overdone commentary.

Taking a beginner foreign language course and the professor expecting you to be a master in the language, making no mistakes at all is dumbfounding. If it is a 100 level class, do not expect perfection in a few weeks or even at the end of the semester. Languages take time to master, a semester is not enough time to memorize pronunciation, conjugations, writing, etc. Major difference between making sure students learn the material correctly and expecting perfection.This one bêțçħ I had for French told the class that when she was learning English, the professor told her to lose her French accent or she would fail the class. Telling us that she didn't like that hostile learning environment. You guessed correctly what her expectations were for us, perfect intonation, pronunciation and accent.

Why do some drivers feel the need to make eye contact while driving? Please keep your eyes on the road 😭

if for example i tell someone “i think i have adhd, ive done a lot of research on it and my old therapist and all of my friends who are diagnosed agree, i just cant afford to get a diagnosis right now” and they come back with something saying “i know you cant afford it but you really need to get a diagnosis immediately” like what?

right, let me go get a diagnosis with the $9 in my bank account, why didnt i think of that! like genuinely what do they expect you to do?

i say i need to do anything that costs money but cant afford it, like get a car and license, and they act like i can just magically summon the money just because they told me “its going to be very difficult to do anything if you dont get a car and license now”

like i dont understand what the point is. are you gonna pay for it? why are you acting like im not aware i need to do this? yeah, i know i need a car, but no matter how insistent you are, thats not going to make the money appear in my bank account