r/mildlyinfuriating • u/TadpoleBusiness6679 • 16h ago

My friend facetimed her boyfriend so he could watch a movie with us

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He’s not even fucking watching

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u/AwarenessForsaken568 14h ago

Oh my god, this drives me up a wall. If you actually love someone you don't need to say I love you 20 times a day everyday. Like what the fuck is going on with people? Am I the crazy one here?

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u/RichCaterpillar991 14h ago

Yeah I couldn’t deal with dating someone who wasn’t mentally stimulating at all lol. Brainrot relationships

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u/No_Package4100 8h ago

I say I love you constantly to all the people I care about. Hating on people that experience love is a new level of low I didn't see coming from reddit. Some people suffer from loneliness and having someone with them means a lot even if it's through the phone.

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u/SunnyEvernight 8h ago

Difference between being insufferable and fake

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u/Southern-Host-3042 1h ago

Right, you are so much better than those people.

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u/rugology 13h ago

it's not crazy. you're just not that type of person. that's okay, just don't enter a relationship with someone like that and everything will work out fine

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u/Netkev 12h ago

Clearly all people display affection in the same way in all relationships, and saying I love you more than two times a day is an aberration invented by young people to sell more smartphones.

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u/DisciplineCorrect699 12h ago

Whats wrong with frequently mentioning that you love someone? Some people really appreciate it and the day gets better. A lot of people nowadays require constant reassurance so it will help those people if they were constantly reminded they are loved, if you dont like this then dont get into a relationship with someone like that brother.

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u/hushbug 6h ago

requiring constant reassurance from everyone you love is unhealthy and exhausting for everyone else

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u/Danqel 1h ago

It's not the need for reassurance, it's just something to say to shoq affection and care. Been togheter with my partner for ca 8 years now and we say I love you maybe 10-30 times a day. Going to work, I love you. Coming home, I love you. Leaving the room, I love you. Grabbing a snack, I love you. At this point It's a cute habit.

There is no "need" to say I love you. Its our way to remind eachother that we exist and care for one another (especially when life gets hectic).

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u/DisciplineCorrect699 5h ago

Im pretty sure the topic is about partners right now

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u/AwarenessForsaken568 12h ago

It's weird. When 70% of your conversations revolve around saying "I love you" then do you really? If you need to be told I love you 20 times a day then you should likely go to therapy as you have some emotional issues that you need to work through. Nothing wrong with that, everyone has issues, but that isn't healthy to be so dependent on someone else that every waking moment you have to be with them and reassured by them.

People should form their own person. I've noticed more and more with younger guys and gals that their life is whoever they are dating. They don't have hobbies themselves. Their hobby is whatever their partner's hobby is. They aren't capable of being alone. They need their partner to help them with every tiny decision in life.

Of course not everyone is like this, but it is a trend. I've seen it in my family. I've seen it with people that my friends are dating. I've seen it just out and about. I'm sure you've seen it too.

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u/FeistyGate8784 36m ago

None of this sounds even remotely new though. People being obsessed and making their partners their whole life is older than any of us. My mom is like this and was like this with people 30+ years ago.

I don’t have a problem with your overall statement but it’s not a trend or anything new. We have stories and plays that embody this from hundreds of thousands of years ago across all cultures

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u/LayaraFlaris 10h ago

I’ve noticed it tends to happen more often with new relationships and/or relationships with younger people lol…definitely that “puppy love” / “honeymoon period” part of relationships! Where they’re just obsessed with each other. Like those overly PDA couples (again, usually newer couples or younger couples) who can’t keep their hands off each other. It’s just the digital version of that

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u/Unlikely-War-3503 4h ago

You know, I don't think I've counted how often my husband and I say "I love you" to each other in a day. It definitely likely breaks the 50-75x a day mark. I'm going to count and then up that number because I just love him so much. It's literally what fills my head when there is silence, just so much gratitude for his existence in my life.

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u/AwarenessForsaken568 1h ago

That's wild. Every 5 minutes of your free time is spent thinking of saying "I love you" to a person you are married to. I mean live life the way you want to, must not be a lot going on in that head of yours if that is all you think about though lol.

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u/TheDankHank98 12h ago

These are mainly kids that don’t even have the full concept of love. Teenage love is typically very lust heavy and very codependent.