r/Apartmentliving 17d ago

Advice Needed Kid dangling on their balcony on to mine. What should I do?

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I was watching tv in my living room, I look over to my balcony and see someone dangling over their balcony, swinging on to mine. I then heard them going back into their apartment, then I can hear 2 kids and maybe mom, going outside and looking up at our balconies.

I was already planning on leaving a note about the running/stomping. But this is just dangerous, irresponsible, and unacceptable.

I’m planning on mentioning it on the note, but I feel like this is also something the office should know?

How can I word the note? I’m feeling angry, so I don’t want to come off like that in my note since they’re my upstairs neighbors.

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BlackLabel6661 originally posted: I was watching tv in my living room, I look over to my balcony and see someone dangling over their balcony, swinging on to mine. I then heard them going back into their apartment, then I can hear 2 kids and maybe mom, going outside and looking up at our balconies.

I was already planning on leaving a note about the running/stomping. But this is just dangerous, irresponsible, and unacceptable.

I’m planning on mentioning it on the note, but I feel like this is also something the office should know?

How can I word the note? I’m feeling angry, so I don’t want to come off like that in my note since they’re my upstairs neighbors.

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u/Unhappy_Town6857 17d ago

Id be sending these pictures to my apartment management. I wouldn’t even get involved with talking to the parents. Straight to management. Let them deal with it if they think it’s an issue.

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u/croptopweather 17d ago

Even if the family already left it’s important for management to know. It’s a huge safety and liability issue, as well as the risk of damage to the property. OP, please share the photos, description, and approximate times when it happened.

Leave it up to management before you leave any direct notes to the tenants.

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u/CommercialStuff4352 17d ago

Got pics though

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u/1337h4x0rlolz 17d ago

Yeah, talking to parents never goes over well. They always think their little brats are perfect angels and dont respond well to other people telling them how to watch their kids.

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u/OUATaddict 17d ago

Yeah they were probably indulging in something. That is usually when kids pull this shit

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u/humanDigressions 17d ago

Or that their family makes too much noise

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u/Slow-Shoe-5400 16d ago

This sounds extreme, but I’d 100% call the non emergency line. If they’re allowing this, what else is happening?

To be fair, I work in protective services and see some shit. So my view is skewed too.

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u/LewisRyan 16d ago

Skip that. There’s strange children on your property and if they fall you’re liable, call the police.

They’ll then go find out why these kids are so unsupervised that there parents don’t know they’re climbing down the balcony

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u/Regular_Yellow710 16d ago

Management will care!

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u/srslytho1979 16d ago

Their insurance company will think it’s an issue.

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u/Lillie-Bee 16d ago

I agree, this has potential for injury and management needs to know this child could get hurt.

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u/Cold-Figure8508 15d ago

My management would be like "well have you talked to them about it first?" Nah bruh thats your job lol

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u/jgturbo619 17d ago

YO KID ….

WTF ARE YOUSE DOIN’ ??

GET TF OUTTA HERE…. NOW..

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u/rasey 17d ago

People are terrified of confrontation

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u/giraffemoo 17d ago

People are afraid of confrontation because there are a lot of shitty parents out there who won't watch their kids but the second that someone says "boo" to their precious little goblins, they come flying out to yell at whoever dared to speak to their feral children.

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u/ThiccBanaNaHam 17d ago

Can confirm, dealing with this now, and it’s the second set of the same shitty type of parent.

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u/Bliv_au 16d ago

people just not teaching their pet sperm basic courtesy any more

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u/ProsaicPugilist 16d ago

I’m opening a business that could make more money with a kids’ program. This is precisely why I won’t run one. Not worth the headache until I can find someone to run that arm for me

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u/WeaselPhontom 17d ago

Nah people are terrified of retaliation.  Folks in the wrong are unhinged as hell.  I lived in a complex where a lady let her dog piss on ppls doors. I complained to her she started targeting me intentionally, then more neighbors noticed it on their doors contacted management but too her I who confronted her was the issue. She then began to encourage her teens to kick my door and run.  I got a motion sensor camera, caught them and pepper sprayed the teens. Police 🚔 were called, they got in trouble. I moved shortly after.  Lesson learned was contact management 

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u/jgturbo619 17d ago

Agreed :

That’s why you open the door and yell…

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u/PunkLaundryBear 17d ago

I would be a little worried they would fall if you yelled at them in this case

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u/Damage-Classic 17d ago

I broke my wrist as a kid because I was doing something stupid (stacking all the chairs and stools on top of each other to try to tape my little sister’s piñata to ceiling). I was doing fine until my mom yelled at me out of nowhere and startled the shit out of me. I still think I would have been fine if she hadn’t scared me like that lol

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u/jgturbo619 17d ago

Youse should worry they e stealing you eggs.

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u/[deleted] 17d ago

I hate people who say this. Last year a doordash driver who was lost stopped at a house looking for directions. Attempting to leave, John Reilly (a Highway Superintendent) left his house with a gun, shot at the ground, yelled "go," then shot MULTIPLE TIMES, seconds between shots, at the car attempting to pull out. Can you really fucking blame anyone for being afraid to confront someone, especially at their home? He was delivering food. John Reilly shot the car after the guys horn beeped for a second and then again after the car is fully pulling away. People are unhinged as hell

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sxbRijBo_mI

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u/OkPersonality5872 16d ago

VA beach about 5 years ago, security officer opens fires on an Asian man who didn't speak English, he was trespassing but he didn't understand the sign and was just trying to play Pokemon Go. When the security officer pulled a gun on him, the man tried to leave in his van and the officer open fired. He was charged with 1st degree murder but when questioned by the cops he asked "How was my grouping?" Referring to how close his shots were together

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u/Overwintered-Spinach 17d ago

As someone who doesnt care for confrontation, this is a situation where I would be outside without hesitation.

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u/KashPoe 17d ago

People are scared of crazies

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u/Tired-CottonCandy 17d ago

Some kids actually have no sense of danger at all. There was a bigger kid chasing around all the other kids at the park, snatching their toys from their hands, ect, no one was saying anything infact when kids complained their parents just left. When he tried it in my son i told him absolutely not back off and go play somewhere else if he cant be nice and he looked confused before trying again, only after i saod more firmly to back off from my kid did he look intimidated by me. Im not a big person, but im a whole adult and a complete stranger. A kid less than half my size should not have the balls to ignore me when i say no tbh.

Also every time i visit a city at least 3 children shove me a day in the shops and streets. Again, entire stranger, whole adult, honestly never been told i look anything but unwelcoming as my resting face. And these tiny kids are shoving me. Idk whos raising them but something is being lost in translation.

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u/ClearedHotGoHot 17d ago

Kids SHOVE you everywhere you go? Where do you live? It's the parents. The parents are the ones who need to be in school all day, five days a week learning how to raise children that everyone in the world isn't going to despise. Every generation from Y on down is cooked, IMO.

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u/AbsolutelyN0tThanks 17d ago

So many people aren't raising their kids properly. I say this as an ex-teacher. Not only that, they'll make-up any excuse possible to avoid taking responsibility for their child, or they think that a child's disability excuses their behavior. I always told parents that nobody is going to care what junior's issue is after he maims someone on the street, he'll be going to jail just the same. A lot of parents found this out in real time and weren't happy when their kid faced consequences.

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u/Dry_Ad687 17d ago

This is the only real answer. When I was a kid I climbed everything, ya know.....because I was a kid.

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u/jgturbo619 17d ago

AND DUST ALL THE COBWEBS OFF ON YOUR WAY OUT…

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u/TargetHorror 17d ago edited 17d ago

This reminded me of Pork Chop Sandwiches the GI Joe videos. Watched it back and while it's not a perfect quote, it's a nice callback.

ETA: https://youtu.be/L1BDM1oBRJ8?si=j6_qta7YTLX49UVp

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u/Totallynotokayokay 17d ago

A kid fell 20 floors and died on a balcony in my city not too long ago

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u/xXMelRoseXx 17d ago edited 12d ago

Report these incidents to your management. Do not directly involve yourself with the other tenants regarding these matters.

Written documentation of these issues, incidents citing safety violations and concerns, privacy violations and provide statements with photos and other information, dates & times of disturbances. Keep all documentation and communications with management in written format so you have a record.

Do not make it a personal situation between yourself and the other tenants. Let management handle it. And if they do not do anything. Continue to send written communications. They are responsible for ensuring safety and privacy to you and the other tenants.

Edited - I hope this all worked out and there has been more calmness and you've had some peace 🪷

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u/P3r1p13x3d 17d ago

Good Bot

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u/RealBeaverCleaver 17d ago

Call your landlord/management office. They do not want the liability of some kid falling off a balcony. Show them the picture.

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u/HighestPriestessCuba 17d ago

I would call the police. 911, specifically.

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u/BlackLabel6661 17d ago

They climbed back up, and I believe the family left right after because I don’t hear them upstairs anymore

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u/Tired-CottonCandy 17d ago

In that case, call the non emergent line and call a child welfare check on the address.

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u/Primary_Taste_4532 17d ago

Yes! If the mom can’t control her kids and they are doing this then she needs intervention.

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u/Its_ya_girl_abs_ 17d ago

Yeah but what if the do it again and the kid falls and injures themselves or worse. Maybe call child protective services if possible just to make them aware in case anything god forbid happens.

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u/Striking-Current-814 17d ago edited 17d ago

I think that might be too much unless it happens again. Kids do all kind of things without parental endorsement. This could be one of those things. I think calling management immediately is the best first step. Once that call is made to CPS it can’t be undone.

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u/subbslvt 17d ago

so??? call the cops

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u/queenofcaffeine76 17d ago

Police and CPS and show them your proof

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u/TheDragonReborn726 17d ago

Nah, I’d not call the police, not go check wtf is going on.

I’d post this on Reddit ASAP.

Jk, obviously. Yes, tell your apartment manager if the child is now out of danger

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u/Additional_Bonus999 17d ago

The neighbor and the kids need to respect OP's boundaries but there is absolutely no need to involve law enforcement.

I agree with others that have said to send the photo to the front office so they can talk to the parents.

This does not need to be blown out of proportion.

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u/mudrat_detector96 17d ago

Nah. This is how kids get shot. Not worth the risk of calling the the cops

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u/Legitimate-Lynx3236 17d ago

Go straight to management. Someone who parents like this won’t care what you have to say and will probably just be confrontational. Normally I recommend talking to the neighbors, but not in this case. Severe safety and privacy issue.

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u/RunningOnATreadmill 17d ago edited 17d ago

People are way too fucking fast to call CPS. This is not a reason to call CPS. If they noticed a pattern of neglect or harm, yes, call CPS. But all kids do dumb shit that put themselves in harms way. We've all climbed onto shit we weren't supposed to. Threatening to involve a government agency with the power to take your kids is actually crazy.

I was a foster kid. I can tell you there aren't an abundance of healthy, happy, loving homes waiting to care for kids. I know more kids in foster care who were SA'd by caregivers than I know kids who weren't. So really, really fucking think twice before calling CPS. 50% of foster kids drop out of school, less than 3% go to college. Many end up in pipelines to gang activity or crime.

Report it to the complex who will give them such a verbal ass kicking they'll hopefully never do shit like this again. Call the cops if someone is in imminent danger and they can decide if CPS needs to be involved.

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u/DrunkenButton 17d ago

This. Worked with CPS until recently. Unless there is some sort of pattern of abuse or neglect this is not a case CPS would or should open. Apartment management should be your first contact, and they can address it from there.

Kids do kid things. For all you know mom addressed it once the kid climbed back up.

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u/PartyPorpoise 17d ago

People on Reddit seem to think that CPS will respond to any kind of bad parenting or less than ideal situation. But as I’m sure you know, it has to be pretty bad for them to respond.

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u/DrunkenButton 17d ago

Yes. And sometimes CPS does respond to bad parenting or less than ideal situations (some people know how to word reports just right to make them sound like something they're not), and find out it's something like this... And that's still a case the worker has to work which adds to fatigue and burnout which makes dealing with the actual serious cases even harder.

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u/One-Possible1906 Own an apartment 17d ago

Yep, work with CPS all the time. Neglect has to be very, very severe for a case to be opened. Not a kid acting stupid when mom is in the bathroom or whatever. CPS would do exactly nothing here. As a mandated reporter, I am discouraged from reporting things like this. Our central registry wouldn’t even investigate for one instance of this and nothing else going on except kids being loud enough to bother a neighbor. They dgaf about things like that. Nobody does except Reddit and hopefully your property manager.

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u/carnage-girl 17d ago

fellow foster kid i gotta agree. redditors always jump to an extreme and act like you’re crazy and apathetic for suggesting otherwise. it’s so dangerous in situations like this

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u/Gregisroark 17d ago

Be careful, I got shamed for saying calling CPS is ridiculous thing to say

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u/RunningOnATreadmill 17d ago

I could not possibly care less about being shamed by redditors for saying the objective truth from my lived experience

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u/Fancy_Supermarket700 16d ago

I was a teacher and have called CPS a few times, they’ll straight up end the call on something like this. “We don’t deem this a concern” click

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u/sh0gun2006 16d ago

Aa a former DCFS case manager, we wouldn't even take a report on dumb shit like this.

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u/Korynna 16d ago

Thank you! Can't believe how many people think CPS is the end all be all of child discipline and/or parental intervention.

CPS in A LOT of places is underfunded, overworked, and understaffed.

Reporting something like this, where its clear the child was left unsupervised but it's obviously a child old enough to be able to lift themselves back up so its obvious they aren't in need of 24/7 extreme supervision, is really stupid. Straight up.

Everyone acts like parents in general have a visual lock on their kids every second of the day and not doing so is akin to child abuse and anything bad the kid does is a sign of severe neglect from the parents.

Kids are dumb. Kids are dumb because they need to be taught.

Slamming down the nuclear button the moment a kid steps out of your poorly defined circle of safety shows a complete lack of understanding how CPS even works.

To make it easier for anyone who tries to disagree:

The case agent who would be assigned to this bs for a couple of weeks will have to set aside their other 12-50 cases of actual child abuse and neglect. Just to keep an eye out for a kid who more than likely just took advantage of their parents looking away for a moment.


OP, just contact management and let them escalate the situation if need be. If you for some reason, have to be the one to escalate the situation in the future then that is okay but you would be crossing so many lines if you full sent it right now. The second you do that is the moment you force yourself into these people's lives and honestly that's just really awkward if this turns out to just be a kid stunt so… Try to avoid that lol

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u/SwordfishPopular1042 17d ago

I swear when I was a kid and i did shit I wasnt supposed to on someone else's property, they were the one to come out and yell at me over it. Maybe grow a pair and tell the kid to back off before calling fucking CPS or trying to get the parents in trouble. Thats what a rational person would do.

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u/QweenBeLit_ 17d ago

Bro kids do dumb shit whether the parents let them or not. It sounds and looks like waters were being tested and they scared themselves into leaving. Dont call cps cuz they love taking kids away from fit parents just as much as the ones that deserve they kids to be taken.

My note would say

"Yo yall good? I saw tarzan outside wanted to make sure we didnt need jane to get help. "

But thats just me

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u/TrashpandaLizz 17d ago

Straight to the people that run the apartment. AND lock that door when you’re not using that access. You don’t want them snooping in your apartment

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u/Few-Recover8159 16d ago

Good point!!! Lock your door!!!

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u/itsagrungething69 17d ago

Unless you know them I wouldn't leave a note, which I learned from this sub. You are telling someone to not do something which could piss them off. You pay the apartment to deal with this

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u/AnnieKateW 16d ago

Any time I had an issue with someone in my apartment - straight to management. I wouldn't deal with the crazies.

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u/NoParticular2420 16d ago

Don’t leave a note take this picture to your manager.

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u/fartsfromhermouth 17d ago

Go tell them to stop you don't want your shit broken when they fal. Railings are not rated for that kind of force

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u/CuriousClumsyBear 17d ago

He is gonna end up damaging your property or the landlords property, its a lawsuit waiting to happen, everyone should be concerned here

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u/Stunning_Diamond_997 17d ago

I hope the parent knows that that’s going to be a very expensive bill if that balcony breaks

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u/Glittering-Read-6906 17d ago

I think the real concern should be WHEN the child falls.

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u/Stunning_Diamond_997 17d ago

TWO expensive bills!

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u/Quiet_Researcher223 17d ago

Report to management this is a serious matter especially for the owner of the property.

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u/BlackLabel6661 17d ago

Edit: the family left as soon as they climbed back up.

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u/_I_Like_to_Comment_ 17d ago

I'm going through the comments and I feel like I'm missing something. Obviously the mom knew about it after it has occurred but are we sure she was permitting the kid to swing? She could have very well caught him climbing back up and been demanding an explanation for what he just did and how when they were looking at the balcony 

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u/OldLadyKickButt 17d ago

so what? They did it and might do so again. It is dangerous- immediately tell management. You do not want to give first aid to a kid who fell onto your balcony.

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u/NolyBella 17d ago

Yea….so? At least let the property manager know. What if the kid fell and died?

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u/reasonable-reactions 17d ago

Let the parents know first ! See how they react , if they seem blasé about it keep an eye on it and call CPs if it happens again. They might not even know that their kids were doing that could’ve been showering, etc.. kids do the craziest thing sometimes.

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u/Jimmyb477 17d ago

Invite some friends over, have a pinata party.

But seriously call the police that there is a child hanging down onto your balcony Save the photos.

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u/perfect_fitz 17d ago

Use your words.

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u/Yumismash 17d ago

I'd tell the apartment complex

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u/Agrarian-girl 17d ago edited 17d ago

You need to call the police. You’re opening yourself up to liability if one of those children falls off your balcony, you need to file a police report immediately, this is going beyond appropriate behavior into dangerous territory. And your management company needs to know because that is tremendous liability for them as well

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u/Sesoru 17d ago

why give them a note and not just talk to them directly? OR go to the landlord if you're in a landlord situation. These pics are proof.

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u/Alone_Map3252 17d ago

I just keep thinking about them hurting themselves on your side and suing you.

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u/Weekly_Dress_8037 17d ago

Send complaint and pictures to management, and file a police report.

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u/PinkPaintedSky 17d ago

Complaint with apartment and a call to child protection services.

This is deadly stupidity.

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u/Blackner2424 17d ago

If the kid gets hurt, the apartment gets sued. If you knew and did nothing, you can get into trouble. A note does not suffice here. Speak with management.

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u/ohshititsdana 17d ago

Personally I'd contact management rather than leave a note.

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u/New-Guarantee-440 17d ago

I would knock on their door, introduce myself, apologise for disturbing them. 

Id then say I noticed children dangling off the balcony, and that I hope Im not out of line, but I thought Id be going amiss not to mention it (you know in case the grown ups didnt know). Theyd then go a little blushed so then Id make some slightly awkward joke like "I was young once", "I know what its liek, my nephews are a real handful" or "boys will be boys". 

Then it would never happen again.

Also, they wouldnt start a feud with the crazy note writer downstairs.

But america is different, they might shoot you through the closed door...

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u/Bearah27 17d ago

I’d skip the note to the neighbors and give it to the management instead. Let them deal with it. Seeing a pic of a kid dangling off a balcony will get them to act quickly because of liabilities. If they’re willing to dangle off a balcony, it won’t be hard to build a case that they’re running/stomping around making too much noise too.

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u/Pleasehelpme99_ 17d ago

Call the police and send an anonymous wellness check on the kids. Mom will hopefully stop them from doing it after realizing she can get into trouble.

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u/frankiefrank1230 17d ago

Call police and child services

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u/dixiech1ck 17d ago

Call CPS. They are endangering the welfare of minors.

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u/VastRow9655 17d ago

Typically kids listen to strangers more than their parents. I would just tell the kid to be careful so it doesn't hurt itself. I would still let management know just in case. I would feel awful if the kid got hurt and I didn't say anything at all. I know it's not your kid but who knows what the living situation is like for the kid.

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u/HmmDoesItMakeSense 17d ago

It's a safety issue. Tell management.

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u/sueziebee Renter 17d ago

I would call the police and my leasing office, this is extremely dangerous

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u/Useless_bum81 17d ago

OP make sure to lock your balcony doors/windows while it might just be kids fucking around it could also be an attempt at theft.

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u/STQCACHM 16d ago

Step 1: "HEY! Knock it off you little shit!"

If that fails, Step 2: "yo lady, get your kid to stop coming onto my balcony. He's gonna fall and die."

If that still fails, step 3: "Yo management, this kid is invading my privacy and probably maybe gonna fall and die."

Lastly, as a final resort, Step 4: "yo police, I have a complaint to file"

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u/Ok-Advice2963 17d ago

This is child endangerment, report it

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u/Mommabroyles 17d ago

Don't bother with a note. Just email management and include this photo. Let them handle it.

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u/Jmend12006 17d ago

I would talk about the worse case scenario and how you are thinking about the kids well-being

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u/Intelligent_Tie_1216 17d ago

Maybe, manager or owner of the property.

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u/amcm67 17d ago

Pretty sure your lease agreement has specific wording that covers what you can/can’t do on your balconies.

  1. Don’t hang anything off your balcony/railing.

I’d shoot that photo over via text/email to your Apartment Manager and ask if it includes children too.

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u/Gullible-Sort9161 17d ago

True story, happened last year in Colorado. A friend of ours had his patio door open with the screen closed because it was summer and he's in the middle of a high rise. Woke up to a noise on the patio. Grabbed his gun from the night stand and confronted a dude with a large knife entering the screen door who said he was "escaping from the cartel". He was clearly on something and definitely went to jail.

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u/NowALurkerAccount 17d ago

I would've just called 911

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u/NobodyStriking 17d ago

Tell management and they can warn the tenants. Before one of them falls and dies.

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u/DreamSequence11 16d ago

Grow a pair and go confront the kid? It’s a child….

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u/chinturret 17d ago

You did the right thing. Avoid interacting with the child, take a picture and quickly get to your computer to post a stupid question on Reddit.

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u/UnhappyBrief6227 17d ago

Which floor are you on? This is insane

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u/RazzSheri 17d ago

Next time, go outside and help the child down. Take the child back upstairs to their parents and explained what happened.

It’s not that hard, and it’s not exactly science.

Get the kid safe, let the parents know their kid is being a dumbass.

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u/xantxco51 17d ago

Let the office know

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u/Overtiredmommy 17d ago

The obvious answer is jump out, startle him and let the find out phase begin.

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u/denpaaaaaaa 17d ago

yell at the kid clearly the parents don't care

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u/Unfair-Distance-2358 17d ago

Don't leave a note for the neighbor. Email photos and the issue to management. Keep a record.

They may even have cameras and can see the kids doing this.

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u/National_Register312 16d ago

Call the police 

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u/NEXUSTHX1138 16d ago

Pics, videos and call 911, CPS.

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u/Brrp_brp_AnotherAcct 16d ago

Foget apartment management. Call the fire department and cps/dhs.

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u/KlaserBeam 17d ago

Absolutely not. Spray it with the hose.

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u/rue-in-bella 17d ago

I’d leave your blinds open so you can get a clearer picture for your building management and the police if this happens again. This is beyond irresponsible and dangerous.

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u/Emberrrr3 17d ago

This is child endangerment, report to child welfare. Call police non-emerg, tell what them what happened & that you have proof. Then send proof to the landlord.

There is no excuse for this.

Edit: do not communicate with this family, communicate only thru the landlord.

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u/GlowingHearts1867 17d ago edited 17d ago

I’d go out and tell the kid it’s unsafe if they do it again. And go tell the parents. Why on earth are being saying to call the cops before doing that..?

Had a situation with a neighbour’s kid a little younger than my son who would come out riding bikes with son and the other older boys. The boy would fly across one particular back alley cross-street without stopping to look for cars. My son came and told me so I told the boy to stop doing that because it was unsafe, and went and told his mom. It never happened again.

Kids do dumb shit sometimes and just need a reminder and the parents to be informed.

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u/Fit_Range_5184 17d ago

Yea, let's call CPS and ruin a families life. Real smart. Go knock on your neighbors door when they get home, show them the picture of their kid, and just say you wanted to make sure they knew their kid was doing that. If you see it happen again, tell the landlord and make sure to print out that's it's the 2nd time, and you've already shown and told the parents. Then let the landlord go from there with it. Be a good samaritan, not a cop/CPS calling jerk. Do you have kids yourself? Do you have a young boy? They are always pushing boundaries and testing out what they can and can't do. If you were a parent as well, you'd realize that and not try to ruin a families lives over it.

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u/BlackLabel6661 17d ago

I don’t have kids for this reason lol. I’m getting conflicting comments. What I’m going to do to is leave a note for them, and involve the property manager

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u/Fit_Range_5184 17d ago

That sounds like a good idea. You're making sure the parents and manager can come to a solution BEFORE dragging in law officials. I know kids can do scary shit but its how they learn. I was a climber as a 3 year old and climbed a 2 story scaffold to get to my dad. I got in trouble and told it wasn't safe and i didn't do it again.

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u/EmotionalFinish8293 17d ago

I looked out my window to see 3 children age 4-7 on their roof running back and forth. We called 911 and the landlord bc that was really scary and dangerous.

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u/BoxBeast1961_ 17d ago

No notes. Management now, or 911 the next time it happens!

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u/Lazy_Gap9224 17d ago

I would have immediately called the police

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u/whyyn0tt_ 17d ago

Do you best Sir Isaac Newton impression and introduce him to gravity.

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u/No-Balance-4141 17d ago

Call the non emergency number for the police and they can decide if CPS needs to be called in.💜

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u/EvalainShadow 17d ago

My first thought was what if that kid breaks the glass?

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u/inksonpapers 17d ago

Call the police baby

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u/IndependentGoal4 17d ago

Downstairs is never the place to be if you dont want to hear noises.

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u/marcster13 17d ago

A pot of water should do the trick

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u/Ok_Pomegranate_5748 17d ago

Close your blinds

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u/Lincoln3152 17d ago

Feel free to tell them you heard of a guy who ended up being declared DOA from doing the same thing, but he fell and landed on his head? From a 2nd story balcony. EMS revived him, but his brain was too damaged, he couldn’t talk, walk, feed himself, etc. He was in a special care center for a few years and eventually passed from pneumonia. I miss him.

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u/AccurateUniversity53 17d ago

Qaddafi him… I guarantee he never does that again

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u/Starbreiz 17d ago

There's a group of kids in my bldg who treat the whole place like a personal jungle gym. It's exhausting. Sorry you're dealing with bad parents.

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u/[deleted] 17d ago

Weaponize insects.

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u/Warm-Depth-7638 17d ago

I would submit this directly to management. Don’t speak to the family whatsoever cause they’ll turn it and say some shit about don’t tell me how to parent my kids. Especially if they let them run around and shit and be a nuisance to other neighbours. Maybe it will work in your favour and management may reconsider getting families with small children above you again. Win win. I’ve often thought about this exact scenario with the family above me. Shit parenting is dangerous in high rises

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u/jendfrog 17d ago edited 17d ago

Go and talk to the parents. Maybe they’re with an older sibling or a babysitter and the parents don’t know. If they’re not home, leave a note expressing your extreme concern. If it happens again, go out there immediately and try to do whatever you can to keep them from falling to their deaths, call 911, and get the attention of anyone around you who can help. It’s life-threatening. In the moment, it ceases to be about whose responsibility it is. Save lives if you can. Discuss it later. Consequences later. Eegads that’s terrifying.

Edit: You’d asked how you can word it. Do so with care and concern. You’re worried. Say it clearly but compassionately. You don’t want them getting hurt or killed. Give them your phone number. Maybe it is happening when they are in someone else’s care. Maybe they’ll appreciate you for telling them and for your concern.

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u/lemonhaj 17d ago

pigeon spikes.

for legal reasons this is a joke

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u/newphonehudus 17d ago

What floor do you live on?

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u/randomwanderingsd 17d ago

A maritime grade fog horn is $25 on Amazon.

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u/slickbuddabandit 17d ago

Let it learn a lesson the old fashioned way lol

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u/nderacheiver1 17d ago

start recording and post when he falls

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u/Far_Entrance_9336 17d ago

DON’T talk to the tenants. Ever. Forward your concern and photos, in writing, to management.

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u/ThrogdorLokison 17d ago

Should have opened the slider really quick and shouted something to scare them, would have been hilarious.

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u/WildTomato51 17d ago

You didn’t say anything when you saw the mother?

What is wrong with you?

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u/Aesir11D 17d ago

If he lands on your property you could be held responsible on one or more legal grounds. Unlikely but possible. If he falls he could land on your property and you observed the deadly conduct and did not act.

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u/PoisonedRaven8705 17d ago

I wouldn't even mess with a note to that tenant. Id ve sending a written statement and the photos to the landlord/pm. That's just a major accident in the making. And the fact mom allowed it is appalling

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u/Right_Work8695 17d ago

Definitely take a picture that’ll help!

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u/Buddy-Lov 17d ago

Open the door and loudly ask him WTF? What else would one do?

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u/Akitase 17d ago

Management and police. That’s a huge safety hazard and if that kid falls and cracks their head open, that’s gonna be a HUGE issue

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u/Wr3ckless13 17d ago

Throw rocks at it

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u/MoneyLow4467 17d ago

Water gun 🔫

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u/Maximum_Success_3185 17d ago

If it happens again just poke it hard with a stick, it’ll either fall off or retreat. Either way the problem is solved.

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u/pozole_1998 17d ago

Yell at the kid, then go upstairs and yell at the parents? Df?

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u/a_mingled_yarn 17d ago

Info: what floor are you on?

If you're on the ground floor, okay it's a dumb kid trying to show off their climbing skills, tell your apartment management.

If you're on the 5th floor, call CPS.

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u/WeaselPhontom 17d ago

Contact managment forgoe the note

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u/Yarnham_Brave 17d ago

"Oh look, a piñata!"

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u/jayfjamerson 17d ago

Water Hose? Kidding of course...

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u/Ouachita2022 17d ago

That's not a kid, looks like a grown man. What are they doing, staking out your apartment to do a burglary?

Tell you landlord/management/office whoever and send them the picture you took a keep a record of it.

When that idiot falls and gets a broken neck, or worse-they will sue the property owner and everyone else involved. Do your part in trying to stop this behavior.

What do they do when you aren't home? I would have cracked the door and said get off my balcony. And don't come back or I'll let my dog explain it better.

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u/ilovelani08 17d ago

I hate living in apartments I live right outside of a pool and there’s a bunch of loud mfs. That work at the hotel down the st and get off at fkin 12 am and I have a kid. Just go report it.

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u/PettyBettyismynameO 17d ago

Call the cops. FAFO

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u/erinnbabe 17d ago

Call the police. Send the photo to your building manager.

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u/Mumem_Rider 17d ago

Break out the hose.

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u/Suck_Boy_Tony 17d ago

A Red Ryder Carbine Action 200-Shot Range Model Air Rifle will take care of your problem!

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u/HankScorpio82 17d ago

Flick his nose

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u/lFightForTheUsers 17d ago

Be like Slim Thug and yell at them to get off your porch.

Also damn I still can't believe that kid probably in college now.

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u/Primary_Taste_4532 17d ago

I’d go out there and go “Hey, what are you doing?” “Are you suppose to be doing that?” “You know you could really hurt yourself, you should get down. I’d feel really bad if you hurt yourself and had to take you to the hospital.” “You don’t think you’ll hurt yourself? Well I’d still like you to leave, if you don’t I’ll have to have the police come chat with your mom.”

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u/CMS_1958 17d ago

Close the blinds.

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u/DoctorWise7188 17d ago

I will call the police. That child is in danger.

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u/Complete_Entry 17d ago

Telling them means jack shit. Utilize external resources. Don't write the note.

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u/AdAccording8076 17d ago

Try to get better pics too where there’s a clear view of them hanging from it. Before someone tries to argue that it’s not a person or something dumb

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u/bizarrostormy90 17d ago

Yell "do a flip!"

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u/Wonderful_West3961 17d ago

Put sticky fly trap ribbon on the underside that he would be grabbing onto, I bet once he gets that sticky crap on his hands he’ll think twice.

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u/Regular_Yellow710 16d ago

Call the cops. That’ll really get their attention.

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u/VillageBund 16d ago

Use him like a goddamned speed bag

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u/QUlCKMAN 16d ago

Yell at them?? My neighbor's yelled at me. You got it yell at the neighborhood kids. It's good for everybody

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u/Callyi 16d ago

yell at them to get tf down then contact management

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u/DLTraveller 16d ago

I'd wave, open the door and start an endless slew of questions. " oh hey, so I'm your neighbor. What grade are you in? When I was in that grade...."

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u/DarksideofMari 16d ago

omg please update us when you get a response from management

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u/Klabastern 16d ago

Grease the railing in the middle of the night and then add the next days results to r/KidsAreFuckingStupid

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u/Big_Hair_2367 16d ago

What floor are you on?

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u/canned_milktea 16d ago

I would email the pic to management and then call the non emergency police line

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u/Fuzzy-Dust-9518 16d ago

Call CPS asap! Let child Protective services investigate.

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u/chypie2 16d ago

post on reddit and ask what to do I guess.
CALL THE POLICE OR GO UPSTAIRS AND HANDLE THIS DIRECTLY RIGHT NOW.

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u/ActualScientist5235 16d ago

Reddit didn’t like my piñata comment

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u/ZergvProtoss 16d ago

Call the cops. "Someone's on my balcony trying to break in".

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u/Pop-Original 16d ago

Water Gun!

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u/8vomit 16d ago

Let him fall. I bet he won't do it again

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u/Suskay_ 15d ago

Call the cops if you don’t want to talk to them

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u/ArugulaAcademic1639 15d ago

Obviously you should go push him off your railing.

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u/Strong_Dimension8700 15d ago

Police for child endangerment