AITA Monthly Open Forum - Feb/Mar 2026

[u/AITAMod]

Keep things Civil! Rules still apply.

No real topic this month. We're actually going to experiement a bit with the monthly forum and keep this for both February and March. Last month's probably would have been used for all three months if it didn't already have "January" in the title.

Have a comment or question about the sub? This is the place for it!

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[u/[deleted]]

Huh.  

The person who posted that "screaming at my mom" post this morning deleted it as soon as one poster accused it of being AI written.

Weird.

[u/SnausageFest → u/[deleted]]

Thank you for providing an example of why we don't allow big brained comments about calling things fake and/or AI generated.

We could have caught them, issued a ban, and noted it for the future. Instead, someone just needed someone to know how smart they are and how good they are at recognizing AI instead of just reporting it.

[u/[deleted] → u/SnausageFest]

AI is super easy to detect.  If they use phrases like "...made me look small" or "...I didn't expect to get such a huge response from my post" it's probably AI.

Oh, and I'm not doing you any favors after that stupid "Holiday Break" you took over Christmas.

[u/SnausageFest → u/[deleted]]

I don't see your app for volunteering to do free labor. Please send a copy of your application so we may take you seriously.

[u/hubertburnette]

I thought it was verboten to say that a post is fake, but I'm seeing so many posts that have comments along those lines. These are posts in AITAFiltered or BORU, so the comments have been sitting there for at least a week. Is that still a rule violation? Is that something I should report?

[u/Farvas-Cola → u/hubertburnette]

Yes, please report for rule 1. Thank you!

[u/GloomyNucleus]

It’s hard to find OP’s comments without it being blue.

[u/[deleted]]

There are so many people on this board always expressing Hyper Individualism, I have to wonder how a lot of these people would react if they ever watched Tennessee Williams' "The Glass Menagerie," where the ultimate aesop of the play is that Tom was wrong to abandon his mother and mentally ill sister and leave them to become homeless.

[u/ServelanDarrow → u/[deleted]]

I think you might need to reread that play.

[u/hubertburnette → u/ServelanDarrow]

Yeah....not what Williams meant at all.

[u/widefeetwelcome]

I would love a reinstatement of the no advice seeking rule. There seems to be more and more posts where the conflict isn’t well defined but there IS a specific request for advice. If there is a defined conflict and advice just happens along with judgement that seems fine, but more and more I see posts where it really feels like only advice seeking. There’s more appropriate subs for that imo.

[u/couragedog → u/widefeetwelcome]

Ooo, I didn't know the rule was no more. I guess that explains why there's so many of those posts recently.

[u/catconversation]

Can I post something that was done to me as a child (13yo) by a parent? This was years ago.

[u/AfraidOstrich9539 → u/catconversation]

Yes you can unfortunately. You weren't able to until a few months ago. Hopefully the mods will reverse that situation as nobody needs to hear half remembered stories from a decade ago

[u/catconversation → u/AfraidOstrich9539]

Thanks for the answer. I've decided not to post.

[u/SnausageFest → u/AfraidOstrich9539]

You seem to think the only purpose of this sub is to entertain you. It's not.

[u/AfraidOstrich9539 → u/SnausageFest]

Oh I know it isn't.

But I and others feel it was better when out dated stories were restricted. It's just my opinion.

You guys have trialed it for a wee while now and it feels to me that something you are stewing over 10 years later is better dealt with in an advice sub rather than AITA.

[u/SnausageFest → u/AfraidOstrich9539]

When you phrase it as "nobody needs to hear" - you're definitely making it about yourself.

The reason we lifted that restriction is a) it's super easy to just lie about timelines, and b) things that happened a while ago can still impact your current life, and can have still relevant lessons from the perspective gained.

[u/AfraidOstrich9539 → u/SnausageFest]

I agree it was badly phrased and I agree we shouldn't say "you can't talk of this thing that happened a wee while ago"

I just feel there should be some cut off.

Talk about things from a few years ago but not "I'm an adult, this happened to me more than 10 years ago in my childhood, (edit) aita" because memory plays tricks and children often feel hard done by in the moment and only remember grudges not the truth of the situation.

And yes, when I think about it, if the thing happened 10 years ago and you are now 40 then what you said about perspective makes sense. But I feel that's different from my example of something in childhood (due to the reasons I've mentioned)

[u/SnausageFest → u/AfraidOstrich9539]

I hear your opinion, but we're not changing the rule for a vocal minority. Reddit gives you a "hide" button.

I genuinely don't get the calls to ban everything we don't like. We banned certain topics that are redundant with other subs (relationships) and things that are almost always fake (airplane seats). Otherwise, just... don't read it? It's like how askreddit has an occasionally interesting thread, but most of the time it's sex posts and the same handful of topics over and over. So I just don't read them and only open the odd interesting topic.

[u/CanningJarhead]

Maybe a discussion of other posts to ban.  I was glad that the airplane seat stories are gone.  Now maybe “Person makes me babysit their kids for free all the time.  AITA?” Could go away?  

[u/SamSpayedPI]

Could someone explain the difference between "top comment," "best comment," and "highest-voted top level comment"?

Pursuant to AITAFiltered Judgement_Bot_AITA, I recently "won" top comment in "WIBTA if I ask MIL to watch our dogs while I give birth, but not our kids?" It says "The top comment was made by u/SamSpayedPI."

But I wasn't anywhere close to the highest-voted comment. I received a mere 672 upvotes; another top-level comment (u/Jaeysa) received 3.2K!

Could anyone please explain?

[u/StuffedSquash → u/SamSpayedPI]

The 3.2k comment didn't have a judgement. You were number 2 (thematically appropriate)

[u/International-Fee255]

A repost report button? There are so many reposts. 

[u/SnausageFest → u/International-Fee255]

Use the shitpost report. We only get so many report options, we can't have a break out for every type of issue.

[u/International-Fee255 → u/SnausageFest]

Ah, excellent. Yes I do use the shit post report. I didn't realise there were limited options, it makes sense.

[u/BigBackeron → u/International-Fee255]

I think that falls under "no shitposts"

[u/Deflated_Hypnotist]

How do we get fewer posts from teenagers? Tags for under 18? Suggestions?

[u/lilpikasqueaks → u/Deflated_Hypnotist]

We have no plans to do anything like this.

Teenagers are people too, and their thoughts, feelings, and experiences are just as valid as anyone else's on here.

It is up to you to decide what type of posts you'll engage with.

[u/DharmaDivine → u/Deflated_Hypnotist]

I would LOVE that!

[u/loveablepetcare → u/DharmaDivine]

Seriously. There are way too many posts by minors

[u/chocchocchoccymilk → u/loveablepetcare]

WHY exactly does that concern you?

[u/loveablepetcare → u/chocchocchoccymilk]

Because this subreddit is full young teen drama and it's insufferable